Book Notes: The Entitlement Cure by John Townsend

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Dr. John Townsend has sold more than 8 million copies of his books and is best known as coauthor of the Boundaries Series and Handling Difficult People. He’s co-host of “New Life Live” radio show with 3 million listeners. He’s also a respected leadership coach skilled in Organizational Leadership, Executive Coaching and Counseling. In his book The Entitlement Cure: Finding Success in Doing Hard Things the Right Way [affiliate], he tackles the current state of entitlement head-on. You’ve probably witnessed entitlement in local sports, national news, politics, celebrity gossip, and reality television. We see rampant entitlement with social media- as ordinary people push media boundaries to achieve overnight stardom.

Like it or not, we’re dealing with the reality of entitlement. Comedians John Crist and Chonda Pierce have grasped the humor of entitlement in their viral videos. I’m a HUGE fan of the topic as I see entitlement dominating communities and tempting people into prideful positions. Many of my social media friends are currently reading and quoting from the book. It appeals to a wide demographic audience. Here are my book notes (make sure you read the entire book for a better understanding):

  1. Entitlement is a sociology disease. From this viewpoint, diseases have identifiable symptoms, diagnosis, underlying cause, and cures. Isn’t that worth investigating?
  2. Family members get stuck in entitlement. If you remember that John Townsend has written several books about healthy boundaries, then it’s no surprise that entitlement is spread through enabling. We can help entitled family members by setting safe limits or what is permitted in our relationships.
  3. Move family members from deserving to responsibility. This is a big lesson I need to teach my adult children, and it’s done with intention. Somewhat  similar to the “Peter Pan Syndrome” of never growing up!
  4. Motivating someone from entitlement to responsibility requires discipline and structure. It’s not easy to teach someone to be a self-feeder, yet when she learns to fish and feed herself, everyone is blessed! I need discipline on my part not to rescue her from failure, and she needs to learn by taking risks and making mistakes. In-between is prayer. LOTS of prayer!

I’m pretty sure I highlighted 85% of my Kindle ebook version!  You can grab a copy of this book at your local library (don’t highlight or dog-ear the pages), borrow a copy from a friend, or own a copy for your personal growth.  After reading the Netgalley PDF version I bought a Kindle version, because I really enjoy the content and I’m reading it a second time.

The Entitlement Cure: Finding Success in Doing Hard Things the Right Way [affiliate link]

 

Christine’s Coffee Talk! What do you think are some symptoms of entitlement today?  Did they exist in older generations (Babylonians) or is this a new challenge in a modern culture? Comment below and share your story…

 

 

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Book Notes: You Are the Beloved by Henri Nouwen

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Henri Nouwen was a spiritual thinker who wrote about the life of Jesus and the love of God. He made the decision to attend seminary school, earned a psychology degree, and served as chaplain in  the army. Later he became a teacher of pastoral psychology, then professor at Harvard Divinity School, Notre Dame, and Yale. His relational model uses three core themes: solitude, community, and compassion. You’ll see his most popular work in the book You Are the Beloved: Daily Meditations for Spiritual Living by Henri Nouwen [affiliate], a daily devotional for Christian living.

Imagine each day being reminded of this truth: you are beloved! This devotional book is a collection of Nouwen’s best writing, and an excellent opportunity for fans of his work and future fans to examine his legacy. While reading the Advanced Reader Copy (ARC) I marked several favorite quotes. Here are my book notes (make sure you read the complete meditations for a better understanding):

  1. Jesus lived his life from an inner place of love. Today I seem many living their life from a selfie-view, instant celebrities counting likes and clicks. When we move away from the center place of inner love, we see more of the world and less of Him.
  2. My identity is beloved. When rejection is center stage in our careers and homes, we can misplace our identity on those roles. Slowing down and reading the Bible we realize that our true identity, our self, is wearing the beloved label.
  3. Self-rejection is the enemy of spiritual living. Sometimes we’re so preoccupied rejecting others on social media, unfriending and posting critical opinions, we start believing the reflections online. We adopt the victim role of self-rejection and there’s a remedy to that: living spiritually!
  4. When I pray I listen to the voice of love. So many times I hear women say they struggle to keep focused as they pray. Perhaps, when we listen to love with intention, our focus shifts. Write this down “I am beloved” and take that into your prayer room today.

When this book releases on October 31. 2017, you can grab a print copy or Kindle version and you’ll have a collection of Henri Nouwen works. My hope is that this devotional sits beside other great classics such as Oswald Chambers, My Utmost For His Highest. You, the reader, will be the deciding factor on where the book sits at home and on a bestseller list! What would happen if you spend some time exploring your identity as beloved?

You Are the Beloved: Daily Meditations for Spiritual Living [affiliate link]

http://henrinouwen.org/

 

Christine’s Coffee Talk! What is your favorite devotional book? Have you read any books written by Henri Nouwen, and if so, which is your favorite? Comment below and share your story…

 

 

 

 

 

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Book Notes: Goliath Must Fall by Louie Giglio

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Louie Giglio is founder of the Passion movement, which gathers collegiate-aged young people at events across the U.S. and around the world, uniting millions of students in worship, prayer, and justice. In his book Goliath Must Fall: Winning the Battle Against Your Giants [affiliate link], he shows us that modern giants still exist. Not only do they exist beyond the Old Testament experience of David, but Goliath is a modern day nuisance hidden somewhere inside our life. He rears his ugly side under the guise of fear, rejection, addiction, anger and comfort. As Louie Giglio teaches through the book- Goliath MUST fall. He’s a hinderance, even today.

 This book appeals to readers of any age group, not just young adults in college. I’m not a fan of the minimalist cover design on this book. Many of my social media friends are currently reading and quoting from the book too. After reading this book I learned to identify my Goliath, and then strike him down with strategic weapons. Just like David, I’m the victor in my own giant-slaying story! And you are too, once you read the book. Here are my book notes (make sure you read the entire book for a better understanding):

  1. We have giants. Most of us admit we have giant conditions such as pride, fear, rejection, comfort, anger or addiction. Giglio teaches his readers how to win the battle using Biblical weapons.
  2. We have seasons of walking in dark valleys. It’s really lonely to walk without Christ, and the choice to bring Him into the valley is ours alone. If you’re in a dark valley you’ll meet Goliath- guaranteed. Giglio shows us how to win.
  3. We have weakness, but can still work for good. This is significant to me because I do not allow my past to breed insecurity. I’ve crushed the Goliath of shame, confessed past sin, and put on a garment of grace. It helps me to distribute forgiveness towards others, just as Christ forgives me for my mistakes.
  4. Don’t give Goliath a seat at your table. For me this is a reminder to be attentive to boundaries, both in my ministry work and personal life. In the past I’ve given the intruder table space when we faced financial crisis, a rebellious teenager, and a cancer scare. Right now he’s sitting at my food table mocking my weight and I’m ready to fight Goliath over this. Is the devil sitting at your table too?

I’m pretty sure I cried through every page of the last chapter. It’s worth the read from beginning to end as you identify your Goliath and slay him. So my question is…when are you going to read Goliath Must Fall? You can grab a copy at your local library, borrow a copy from a friend, or own a copy for your family to enjoy. I bought a Kindle version once I read the Netgalley PDF version for a review, because I really enjoy the content and expect to read it again. Do you think we should have a BOOK CLUB discussion on this? Comment below and let me know…I’ll pray on that when I see your comments.

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Christine’s Coffee Talk! What is your Goliath, what BIG thing in your life have you struck down?  Comment below and share your story…

 

 

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Book Review | As Kingfishers Catch Fire

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As Kingfishers Catch Fire
by Eugene Peterson

Eugene Peterson has long been one of my all-time favorite writers for  both the beauty of his prose and the depth of his insight about Scripture.   His latest release, As Kingfishers Catch Fire, does not disappoint.

None of his books are “easy reads.”  They are best chewed over and savored.   As a collection of 49 sermons spanning decades of pastoral ministry, this book in particular lends itself to slow reading.  I typically read one chapter a day, sometimes even less.

The sermons are broken into sections and systematically walk you through Scripture:   Books of the law, poetry books, prophets, gospels, etc.   He shares both fresh ideas and foundational theology.

For those longing for a deeper walk through the entirety of Scripture or for an awakening about the beauty and wisdom of God’s Word, this book is a powerful and beautiful choice.

I received this book free from the publisher. I was not required to write a positive review and the opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

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[Book Review] Uncommon: Pursuing a Life of Passion and Purpose by Carey Scott

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Photo by Tirza van Dijk on UnsplashCarey Scott takes the word ‘uncommon’ and unpacks it into a positive experience through the lens of Scripture. You’ll want to read it twice: once alone as you cry, and again with a group of friends on the same journey of uncommon womanhood. Get out your highlighters and get started on this book today! -Christine Abraham

This book lives up to the title, because its uncommon to surrender when the world tells you to conform. Through life experiences and personal stories, Carey takers her reader on a journey of boldness in faith. Her readers self-discover their own passion and a revived trust in God’s Word.

When Carey Scott asked me if I wanted to read a copy of her newest book “Uncommon: Pursuing a Life of Passion and Purpose” I did not hesitate to say yes. I met this amazing woman online though social media and was immediately captivated by her passion and purpose. Then she writes this incredible book and now I want to drink coffee with her and stay up all night chatting about Jesus.

She’s authentic and every word in her book is soul-catching for me. Because of her book and story, I feel like we’re sisters -though we’ve never met in person. It’s THAT powerful. I’ve enjoyed this book so much it’s one of my 10 Favorite Books of the Year.

 

 

Favorite Quotes

  • I was at the crossroads of questioning God and trusting God, and I had a choice to make. Carey Scott
  • It’s easy to trust God when the stakes are low, but this wasn’t one of those times. Carey Scott
  • You cannot live extraordinary when you live in the bondage of ordinary. Carey Scott
  • Perfection is a lie, and it’s nowhere close to God’s heart for us. Carey Scott
  • We can’t live uncommon lives if we’re so consumed by what others might think of us. Carey Scott
  • This isn’t dress rehearsal, friend. No, we are living on the stage of life. Carey Scott

About the Author: Carey Scott is an author, speaker, and life coach, honest about her walk with the Lord… stumbles, fumbles and all. Her passion is reminding women of their immeasurable worth, something the world is quick to discount. She speaks to women’s groups and writes about the issues that matter most to the heart of a woman.

Published: Shiloh Run Press (July 1, 2017)

ISBN-13: 978-1683222750

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Christine’s Coffee Talk! When is the last time you did something uncommon? What would it take for you to do something outside your comfort zone? Comment below and share your story…

 

 

 

 

 

 

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[Book Review] New Morning Mercies: A Daily Gospel Devotional by Paul David Tripp

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When you begin the day with a new attitude based on the Bible, you know it’s going to be  transformational in how you look at people and events. Beginning the day with New Morning Mercies: A Daily Gospel Devotional by Paul David Tripp is a trip (pun intended) through power-thoughts! Let me tell you why…

This is a devotional book that does not collect dust on your bookshelf. It’s a “pick-up-and-read” daily book with a power-packed message each day, for 365 days. I am amazed how spot-on these messages are. They’re not long to read but the words linger throughout the day.

It’s similar to Oswald Chambers “My Utmost For His Highest” with convincing words- for both a new Christian and a mature Christian. It’s different in the absence of the actual Scripture verse, perhaps intentionally, so the reader is not struggling with Bible translations. Instead of writing out the verse, the reader will use a Bible alongside the devotional and look up references. I found it helpful to use an electronic Bible for this purpose.

I’ve enjoyed this devotional so much it’s one of my 10 Favorite Books of the Year. Now I have a Kindle version so I can carry the devotional when I travel, a PDF version from my book review, and a hardcover to give as a gift. Yes- I do enjoy this book!

365 Gospel-Centered Devotions for the Whole Year

Mornings can be tough. Sometimes, a hearty breakfast and strong cup of coffee just aren’t enough. Offering more than a rush of caffeine, best-selling author Paul David Tripp wants to energize you with the most potent encouragement imaginable: the gospel.

Forget “behavior modification” or feel-good aphorisms. Tripp knows that what we really need is an encounter with the living God. Then we’ll be prepared to trust in God’s goodness, rely on his grace, and live for his glory each and every day.

Favorite Quotes

  • I must always remember the grace I am given and extend that grace to the people in my life.
  • In every situation, location, and relationship in our lives there is a war for control of our hearts.
  • The grand delusion of every act of sin is that we can be disloyal to God and everything will work out in the end.

About the Author: Paul David Tripp (DMin, Westminster Theological Seminary) is a pastor, author, and international conference speaker. He is also the president of Paul Tripp Ministries. He has written a number of popular books on Christian living, including What Did You Expect?Dangerous CallingParenting, and New Morning Mercies. He lives in Philadelphia with his wife Luella and they have four grown children. For more information and resources, visit paultrippministries.org

Published: Crossway; 1 edition (October 31, 2014)

ISBN-13: 978-1433541384

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Christine’s Coffee Talk! What is your favorite classic devotional’ “My Utmost for His Highest” is mine.  Comment below and share your story…