Book Notes: The Entitlement Cure by John Townsend

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Dr. John Townsend has sold more than 8 million copies of his books and is best known as coauthor of the Boundaries Series and Handling Difficult People. He’s co-host of “New Life Live” radio show with 3 million listeners. He’s also a respected leadership coach skilled in Organizational Leadership, Executive Coaching and Counseling. In his book The Entitlement Cure: Finding Success in Doing Hard Things the Right Way [affiliate], he tackles the current state of entitlement head-on. You’ve probably witnessed entitlement in local sports, national news, politics, celebrity gossip, and reality television. We see rampant entitlement with social media- as ordinary people push media boundaries to achieve overnight stardom.

Like it or not, we’re dealing with the reality of entitlement. Comedians John Crist and Chonda Pierce have grasped the humor of entitlement in their viral videos. I’m a HUGE fan of the topic as I see entitlement dominating communities and tempting people into prideful positions. Many of my social media friends are currently reading and quoting from the book. It appeals to a wide demographic audience. Here are my book notes (make sure you read the entire book for a better understanding):

  1. Entitlement is a sociology disease. From this viewpoint, diseases have identifiable symptoms, diagnosis, underlying cause, and cures. Isn’t that worth investigating?
  2. Family members get stuck in entitlement. If you remember that John Townsend has written several books about healthy boundaries, then it’s no surprise that entitlement is spread through enabling. We can help entitled family members by setting safe limits or what is permitted in our relationships.
  3. Move family members from deserving to responsibility. This is a big lesson I need to teach my adult children, and it’s done with intention. Somewhat  similar to the “Peter Pan Syndrome” of never growing up!
  4. Motivating someone from entitlement to responsibility requires discipline and structure. It’s not easy to teach someone to be a self-feeder, yet when she learns to fish and feed herself, everyone is blessed! I need discipline on my part not to rescue her from failure, and she needs to learn by taking risks and making mistakes. In-between is prayer. LOTS of prayer!

I’m pretty sure I highlighted 85% of my Kindle ebook version!  You can grab a copy of this book at your local library (don’t highlight or dog-ear the pages), borrow a copy from a friend, or own a copy for your personal growth.  After reading the Netgalley PDF version I bought a Kindle version, because I really enjoy the content and I’m reading it a second time.

The Entitlement Cure: Finding Success in Doing Hard Things the Right Way [affiliate link]

 

Christine’s Coffee Talk! What do you think are some symptoms of entitlement today?  Did they exist in older generations (Babylonians) or is this a new challenge in a modern culture? Comment below and share your story…

 

 

Disclosures: I received this book for free from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review. This does not affect my opinion of the book or the content of my review. Womens Bible Cafe™ is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to amazon.com

Book Notes: You Are the Beloved by Henri Nouwen

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Henri Nouwen was a spiritual thinker who wrote about the life of Jesus and the love of God. He made the decision to attend seminary school, earned a psychology degree, and served as chaplain in  the army. Later he became a teacher of pastoral psychology, then professor at Harvard Divinity School, Notre Dame, and Yale. His relational model uses three core themes: solitude, community, and compassion. You’ll see his most popular work in the book You Are the Beloved: Daily Meditations for Spiritual Living by Henri Nouwen [affiliate], a daily devotional for Christian living.

Imagine each day being reminded of this truth: you are beloved! This devotional book is a collection of Nouwen’s best writing, and an excellent opportunity for fans of his work and future fans to examine his legacy. While reading the Advanced Reader Copy (ARC) I marked several favorite quotes. Here are my book notes (make sure you read the complete meditations for a better understanding):

  1. Jesus lived his life from an inner place of love. Today I seem many living their life from a selfie-view, instant celebrities counting likes and clicks. When we move away from the center place of inner love, we see more of the world and less of Him.
  2. My identity is beloved. When rejection is center stage in our careers and homes, we can misplace our identity on those roles. Slowing down and reading the Bible we realize that our true identity, our self, is wearing the beloved label.
  3. Self-rejection is the enemy of spiritual living. Sometimes we’re so preoccupied rejecting others on social media, unfriending and posting critical opinions, we start believing the reflections online. We adopt the victim role of self-rejection and there’s a remedy to that: living spiritually!
  4. When I pray I listen to the voice of love. So many times I hear women say they struggle to keep focused as they pray. Perhaps, when we listen to love with intention, our focus shifts. Write this down “I am beloved” and take that into your prayer room today.

When this book releases on October 31. 2017, you can grab a print copy or Kindle version and you’ll have a collection of Henri Nouwen works. My hope is that this devotional sits beside other great classics such as Oswald Chambers, My Utmost For His Highest. You, the reader, will be the deciding factor on where the book sits at home and on a bestseller list! What would happen if you spend some time exploring your identity as beloved?

You Are the Beloved: Daily Meditations for Spiritual Living [affiliate link]

http://henrinouwen.org/

 

Christine’s Coffee Talk! What is your favorite devotional book? Have you read any books written by Henri Nouwen, and if so, which is your favorite? Comment below and share your story…

 

 

 

 

 

Disclosures: I received this book for free from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review. This does not affect my opinion of the book or the content of my review. Womens Bible Cafe™ is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to amazon.com

Book Notes: Goliath Must Fall by Louie Giglio

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Louie Giglio is founder of the Passion movement, which gathers collegiate-aged young people at events across the U.S. and around the world, uniting millions of students in worship, prayer, and justice. In his book Goliath Must Fall: Winning the Battle Against Your Giants [affiliate link], he shows us that modern giants still exist. Not only do they exist beyond the Old Testament experience of David, but Goliath is a modern day nuisance hidden somewhere inside our life. He rears his ugly side under the guise of fear, rejection, addiction, anger and comfort. As Louie Giglio teaches through the book- Goliath MUST fall. He’s a hinderance, even today.

 This book appeals to readers of any age group, not just young adults in college. I’m not a fan of the minimalist cover design on this book. Many of my social media friends are currently reading and quoting from the book too. After reading this book I learned to identify my Goliath, and then strike him down with strategic weapons. Just like David, I’m the victor in my own giant-slaying story! And you are too, once you read the book. Here are my book notes (make sure you read the entire book for a better understanding):

  1. We have giants. Most of us admit we have giant conditions such as pride, fear, rejection, comfort, anger or addiction. Giglio teaches his readers how to win the battle using Biblical weapons.
  2. We have seasons of walking in dark valleys. It’s really lonely to walk without Christ, and the choice to bring Him into the valley is ours alone. If you’re in a dark valley you’ll meet Goliath- guaranteed. Giglio shows us how to win.
  3. We have weakness, but can still work for good. This is significant to me because I do not allow my past to breed insecurity. I’ve crushed the Goliath of shame, confessed past sin, and put on a garment of grace. It helps me to distribute forgiveness towards others, just as Christ forgives me for my mistakes.
  4. Don’t give Goliath a seat at your table. For me this is a reminder to be attentive to boundaries, both in my ministry work and personal life. In the past I’ve given the intruder table space when we faced financial crisis, a rebellious teenager, and a cancer scare. Right now he’s sitting at my food table mocking my weight and I’m ready to fight Goliath over this. Is the devil sitting at your table too?

I’m pretty sure I cried through every page of the last chapter. It’s worth the read from beginning to end as you identify your Goliath and slay him. So my question is…when are you going to read Goliath Must Fall? You can grab a copy at your local library, borrow a copy from a friend, or own a copy for your family to enjoy. I bought a Kindle version once I read the Netgalley PDF version for a review, because I really enjoy the content and expect to read it again. Do you think we should have a BOOK CLUB discussion on this? Comment below and let me know…I’ll pray on that when I see your comments.

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Christine’s Coffee Talk! What is your Goliath, what BIG thing in your life have you struck down?  Comment below and share your story…

 

 

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Disclosures: I purchased this book and study guide. I also received this book for free from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review. This does not affect my opinion of the book or the content of my review. Womens Bible Cafe™ is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to amazon.com