Love and Respect Book Review

Love and Respect written by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is a turning point for any marriage, healthy or not. Decoding the Love and Respect Relationship is the central theme of the book, based upon Ephesians 5:33. We want these basic needs fulfilled and without them, our marriage becomes a bitter battleground for the enemy.

Most often we read the book because someone recommended it. A few years ago when my husband handed me a copy of the book and said “I saw this guy talk at church, you’re not respecting me and I think we should take the marriage classes” I resisted the temptation to throw the book at him. I filed the book on a shelf for the next two years. Recently I found an opportunity to read the Love and Respect book and discovered that my initial reaction was wrong. This is not just another “how to fix your marriage” book.

A few sections of the book made me defensive and uncomfortable. I discovered a key component lacking in my marriage and how the Love and Respect cycle was inherited from my parents. While the methods are simple to follow and implement, it required the effort of twenty-four chapters to get me from Point A (resisting) to Point B (embracing) the Love and Respect method.

About the Author

Emerson Eggerichs and his wife Sarah travel the country conducting the Love and Respect marriage conferences. Before launching Love and Respect Ministries, Emerson was senior pastor of Trinity Church in East Lansing, Michigan for nearly 20 years. Emerson received his B.A. in Biblical Studies and M.A. in Communications from Wheaton College and Graduate School. He was later awarded a Master of Divinity degree from Dubuque Seminary, and a Ph.D. in Child and Family Ecology from Michigan State University. Married since 1973, he and Sarah have three adult children. He is the president of Love and Respect Ministries and author of the best-selling book Love and Respect.

Emerson Eggerichs Quotes from Love and Respect

  • Without love, she reacts without respect.
  • Husbands and wives communicate in code.
  • Women confront to connect. A man thinks his wife is confronting to control.
  • Look at his desires and not at his performance.
  • It is your choice to disrespect or to be unloving.

I could spend hours in counseling, hundreds of dollars on ineffective relationship books and time wasted inside a frustrated marriage- or I could spend less than a week reading the Love and Respect book and learn Biblical solutions to any relationship. My time was well spent reading this book!

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My Amazon Rating  5/5


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Founder and Ministry Director of the Womens Bible Cafe™ since 2009, Christine has led 60+ online Bible Studies for women. She completed a Graduate of Biblical Studies from Liberty University. She's an inspired writer, Amazon Top Reviewer and Blogger Follow on Facebook

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  • Tonya says:

    I had to send the book away. I found it so true. Every word. And my husband hated hearing it and my beg for him to read it. So I had to give it away. I think it is one of the best books on marriage that I’ve ever read.

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