MML Week Two: Filling Your Thought Closet with Truth

Welcome back to the Womens Bible Cafe as we discuss week two of Me, Myself and Lies by Jennifer Rothschild. We’re talking about the labels inside our hearts, labels given to us by parents or labels we created for ourselves. Our labels can be “destructive, discouraging or untrue tags from a definitive source” explains Jennifer. She warns “we often transfer anger from the painful label to the person who stuck it on us.” Give this some thought, and meditate on your own labels and their source. Knowing where our hurtful or untrue labels come from, we can then follow the 3-steps recommended by Jennifer: 1) Crush the lie 2) Capture the thought and 3) Concur with truth. Page 36 in the workbook has a list of 22 truthful labels. Wouldn’t it be refreshing to wake up each day and meditate on these truths!

We examined our fact, fate and faith labels and looked at the story of Naomi wearing a gloom-and-doom label instead of “favored by God.” Imagine for a moment that she is wearing a sackcloth instead of a royal robe. Her label was based on her struggle and circumstances, not on faith. What we clothe ourselves in does not always reflect truth. “We are to wear faith labels and to speak statements of faith to our soul no matter our circumstances- no matter the fact,” advises Jennifer. Do we have the MIND of Christ,or the mind of a Pharisee polluted by pride? Our faulty assumptions pollute the mind, creating a stench in our thought closets. A careful examination of the roots of our thoughts offers the opportunity to clean the mess and produce spiritual fruit.

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Jennifer Rothschild Quotes

  • A label only becomes yours if you allow it.
  • Labels mark us by someone elses’ perception.
  • We are to wear faith labels and speak statements of faith.
  • Wear the faith label and fix your eyes on the unseen; it gives you eternal perspective.
  • Unless we tell ourselves scriptural truths, we will conform to the world through faulty thinking.

This Week’s Scripture Verse

Keep your servant also from willful sins; may they not rule over me. Then I will be blameless, innocent of great transgression. Psalm 19:13 NIV

For Next Week

  • Read Week Three in the workbook
  • Listen to the Session Three Audio or Session Three Video (optional)

Group Discussion- Answer one question or as many as you like

  1. Are you wearing the faith label “Favored by God” and if not, why?
  2. Describe a time when you experienced a disconnect because of labels. (page 37)
  3. Which character do you best relate: Martha, Jezebel, Rachel or Job’s Wife? Why? (page 47)
  4. Share something you enjoyed from this week’s lesson.

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  • Jennifer D says:

    4.Share something you enjoyed from this week’s lesson.
    I using all the days as enjoyable. Day 1 Label makers–don’t use them. Day 2 Unchangeable labels: fact and faith–some labels are there for a reason you can’t just change them. Day 3 It’s a woman’s prerogative to change her mind–I agree that we are allowed to change our minds. In addition, men do it sometime too. Day 4 Faulty assumptions–People judge people to much. Life can bring faulty assumptions but you should not prejudge people. Day 5 Roots and Fruits–like the principles –one, two, and three.
    At the end, the prayer was a good way to tell him what you are feeling.

  • Cathie says:

    Right after my divorce, I felt very disconnected. I labeled myself a “second class Christian” I thought God couldn’t use me anymore. Any opportunities for ministry were over and it wasn’t even my fault. Those were lies, I allowed myself to believe. I was letting my own interpertation of facts keep me from faith.

    Ruth is one of my favorite books in the Bible. I’ve read it many times. but this week’s Bible study gave me a whole new perspective of Naomi.

    • Christine says:

      Satan speaks lies to our hearts and tells us we’re less, and this grieves the Holy Spirit. Filter your thoughts through the “Jesus lens.” He does not see you as a second class member of the Kingdom, He sees you as a daughter. Jesus did not come to this world to make us feel inferior or place us into a class system, He came to this world to show us His love for us as individuals. You have one audience in this world and that is God. No matter what lies Satan whispers to you, or judgments other Christians impose on you, there is only ONE truth and His name is Jesus. Sit at His feet and enjoy the intimacy of the Savior, our redeemer, our God.

      Last summer at the Womens Bible Cafe, we studied Ruth by Kelly Minter and it was fantastic. Highly recommend it!

      https://www.womensbiblecafe.com/category/completed-studies/ruth/

  • PattyA says:

    1: Wearing the faith label “Favored by God” is a hard one for me to wear with consistency. I tend to take responsibility and the guilt for everything in my life and the lives of those I love and care for. This study has made me aware of just how often we do an injustice to ourselves with those bad labels. The first words out of my mouth are “I am sorry”. My other favorite is “ I am such a dork” or “I am so stupid”. My husband actually got mad at me just the other day. He looked at me and said “I did not marry a dork” What a good feeling however, when we dress ourselves in God’s labels. But as you have helped me to recognize, it is something we have to stay on top of and pray about. I love the verse: 2 Tim. 1:7 “For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.”
    2: A time when I was disconnected because of labels. I learned the tongue is the most deadly of weapons. I was labeled incorrectly by another and it almost destroyed my life. I am so grateful for our Father/God and Jesus Christ. I was not a Christian then, but God gave my husband and myself a Spirit of hunger that only Jesus Christ could fill. We searched for Him until we were healed. It took a long time, but I would not change anything in my life if it meant losing the faith I have found through Jesus Christ.
    3.Which character do you best relate: Martha, Jezebel, Rachel or Job’s Wife? Why? Martha, I am always putting everyone and everything else ahead of myself. I am realizing God wants me to take care of me first. I am learning I cannot serve God the way I am suppose to if I am not healthy, rested, integreted in all ways.
    4: Share something you enjoyed from this week’s lesson. The whole study an learning experience, I like all of the scripture that is to be looked up. I am always delighted when I see it is one I have already highlighted. My favorite however this week I mentioned earlier: 2Tim 1:7. I also really liked your friend Patsy’s quote; Everyone needs integration therapy. The explanation of that is so soul meditating. I do not want to ever forget that. “the disunity of my outside me and my inside me”.

    • Christine says:

      For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline. 2 Tim. 1:7 NIV (thanks for sharing this verse)

      You write “God gave my husband and myself a Spirit of hunger that only Jesus Christ could fill.” I love these words, because we are often looking for the wrong hunger. We search for rood, relationships, entertainment, achievement etc…when our real hunger is for intimacy with Christ.

      I’m still re-reading Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World and the author reminds us that Jesus did not rebuke Martha’s actions, he rebuked her attitude. He wants us to serve in love, not resentment.

  • Nikky says:

    Are you wearing the faith label “Favored by God” and if not, why?

    I think I wear the faith label “Favored by God” most of the time. God’s goodness has been too evident to me for me to think that I am not favored. My life could have really been awful had I been left to my own devices. When I think back about some of the situations I could have been in because of mistakes I made along the way, I realize that I have been blessed abundantly. God has shown his mercy over and over by not giving me what I deserve. I do sometimes have lapses in memory and pride creeps in. I tend to overthink and over analyze things thinking that somehow I need to do more and when I do sometimes I forget and start to think that I because of my goodness, I have earned blessings by my own works…that’s when the trouble starts. God gently or not so gently reminds me who is in control.

    What character do you relate to?

    I think I can best relate to Martha. There have been times I have made earnest requests to God in prayer that have gone unanswered. I really longed to know the answer and was disappointed, but at peace when the point came that the answer could not be known on this side of heaven. I trust that the Lord had a good reason for not making His answer known to me and I have faith that someday I will know and understand.

  • Anne says:

    1. Are you wearing the faith label, “Favored by God”…? I think my life reflects that I am favored by God, I sure didn’t do all of this on my own. I am very selfish at times and want more and forget to thank God for how far he has brought me and how much he continues to give me. For instance this week I have felt more like I was in the right spot and with the right attitude than I have for a very long time, but earlier this morning all of the bitterness and insecurity started creeping back in.
    2. I have felt disconnected many times in my life because of labels that I have self-imposed and because of labels that others have placed on me. When I was younger I didn’t know how to turn to God’s love to find the one true label for my life. I do now, but I struggle with pride and insecurity.
    3. I relate to Martha because I am very impatient and want to see God’s plan before He is ready to reveal it to me. I think I am even more like Naomi who was “positioned for ultimate favor, but she wasted her emotions on assuming the worst about her circumstance”… it also says “and God”. I don’t think I assume the worst about God, but the rest applies to me completely.
    4. I like the principle of changing the root. The root of bitterness and insecurity bears the fruit of destructive emotions in my life. That is a very helpful illustration for me to work with to kill those bad roots. I have been busy trying to keep up with picking off the bad fruit and throwing it away without attacking and removing the bad root.

    • Christine says:

      Sounds like you are weeding your garden, removing weeds that choke the spiritual life from you, and making room for more of God’s goodness in your life. Glad to hear yu are picking away the weeds at the root instead of pulling them at the surface of the earth.

  • Kathy says:

    I was traveling for business early in the week, so unfortunately I wasn’t able to post until today.

    1.Are you wearing the faith label “Favored by God” and if not, why? I generally wear the truthful labels God has placed on me (undeservedly, but thank you Jesus!), but there are times I rip those labels off and slap on a false one out of self-pity. I know God loves me unconditionally, but there are times my insecurities rear their ugly head and I take on the mantle of unworthiness. I am learning to return to God’s word, especially 2 Tim 1:7.

    2.Describe a time when you experienced a disconnect because of labels. I never thought I would be divorced … I had a hard time reconciling that label with the label I had previously worn: devoted Christian wife and mother. How could I again trust another? How could I trust my own instincts? I learned my hope and trust lies only in the Lord, but that he continues to call me to be vulnerable as I love others.

    3.Which character do you best relate: Martha, Jezebel, Rachel or Job’s Wife? Why? I used to relate mainly with Martha because I’d like God to move on my time schedule, but I now realize I more likely resemble Naomi. I know she is not listed in the question, but I allowed bitterness to rule my heart for quite a while. Bitterness morphed into wallowing in insecurity. That is slowly receding as I see God’s perspective and truths more each day. It is not I who is enjoy the approval of others, but it is God who gets the glory.

    4.Share something you enjoyed from this week’s lesson.
    I underlined and starred the following sentence on p. 48: “Pesumption shows itself in me when I wrongly assume my perspective is complete but it is actually limited by my experiences and flawed by my sinful nature.” Just as I do not want others labeling me through their own faulty presumptions, I need to be willing to acknowledge that I most likely view others through faulty presumptions as well. I need to extend grace toward others and keep from slapping labels on them as well.

    • Christine says:

      Have you read Beth Moore’s book So Long Insecurity?

      When we hope and trust in the Lord, no matter our circumstances, we are showing obedience to Him. We are living in faith and not in flesh.

      I like your inclusion of Naomi, we recently studied Ruth and studied her verse-by-verse.

      Faulty vision, from answer 4, reminds me of cloudy eyeglasses. When our glasses are smudged, we can’t focus and see what is behind the lens. Pray continually for clear vision to see people as God sees them. What label would God place on these people?

  • Linda says:

    2.Describe a time when you experienced a disconnect because of labels.

    A factual label that I wear is “Barren” and the fate that comes with it is “alone.” Being barren is a lonely place. I grew up always wanting children and living with the fact that I would not be able to have a child was unbearable. It absolutely gave me a real disconnect with my
    family, friends, and just about anyone I came into contact with.

    People would alway feel the need to comment one way or another which mostly hurt or made me angry. I knew they had good intentions, but it didn’t make me “feel” better. We spent untold sums of money trying to conceive and stayed on an Adoption list for years, all of which never worked. And if anyone reading this thinks “wonder if she tried xxx, the answer is yes, yes, and double yes. We tried every avenue known to mankind..and yes I prayed Hanna’s prayer and lived in faith that one day I would have a child.

    Years of unsuccessful attempts at obtaining a pregnancy placed me in a self-preservation mode. I thought I was friendly enough; but what I didn’t realize is that I placed a barrier between me and whoever I came in contact with. If they didn’t get to know me, then they wouldn’t see my pain. The sad truth is that I don’t have a lot of friends because of the barriers I placed on relationships.

    My first husband died some years ago, and today I am married to a wonderful man. He has two adult children, and my step-daughter gave birth to a son about six months ago….his name is Samuel…ironic huh! No it’s 100% God. I never dreamed in a million years that God would answer my prayers in such an unexpected way. No, he is not my son, nor is he a biological grandson, but he is a blessing from God that I never expected.

    So I guess you could say, I could relate to Rachel, she knew the consequences of not having a son. It would leave her without any care in her old age. I worried about being old and alone as well. I am learning about wearing the label of a child of the Living and True God. Much of which I knew in my head; but, never in my heart.

    So, this study is helping me tear out those deep rooted barriers, and with God’s help, replacing them with new roots to bear my new nature in Christ Jesus.

    • Christine says:

      Yet you, LORD, are our Father.
      We are the clay, you are the potter;
      we are all the work of your hand. Isaiah 64:8 NIV

      I have engraved you on the palms of my hands;
      your walls are ever before me. Isaiah 49:16 NIV

      Meanwhile, the moment we get tired in the waiting, God’s Spirit is right alongside helping us along. If we don’t know how or what to pray, it doesn’t matter. He does our praying in and for us, making prayer out of our wordless sighs, our aching groans. He knows us far better than we know ourselves, knows our pregnant condition, and keeps us present before God. That’s why we can be so sure that every detail in our lives of love for God is worked into something good. Romans 8:28 Message

  • Lauren says:

    I am happy to say that yes, I am wearing the label “Favored by God”. Sometimes it’s a little rough around the edge, like a child’s sticker that has been peeled off to many times, but it’s hanging on. If you had asked me that question this time last year, or even when I first read this study, the answer would have been no, but thank God, I am ripping off those old labels of lies and replacing them with truth!
    2. I had a couple of times. The first one is when I “left” full-time nursing to go into nursing education. I was a nurse, but was I really? And I wasn’t yet a teacher, or didn’t feel like one when I spoke with others in the academic setting. Another has to do with being a Mom. For so many years, I beat myself up because I didn’t fit what a “perfect” Mom was… but I am a good Mom, and there is no perfect Mom.
    3. Job’s wife, because so many times as I have faced rough times, I have just gave up and threw in the towel. This kind of goes along with giving up hope.
    4. I loved the truth labels from day 1. So many good verses to remind ourselves along the way!

    • Christine says:

      Maybe your sticker needs more adhesive, the Holy Spirit kind! 🙂 I like the image of ripping off the labels, and I need to remember not to place those unused labels on my children or husband. This has been a good study for me so far, Jennifer really gets to the core of our though closets.

  • Christine says:

    Forgive me for not replying to the comments, I was under heavy spiritual warfare and my reception was clouded! The fog has lifted and I’m alive in the Spirit, feeling His love flowing as I type. I’m praying over your comments as I reply….

  • Charity says:

    1.Are you wearing the faith label “Favored by God” and if not, why?
    Yes, I try to wear this label everyday and when I am not having the greatest day I remember my label and mediate and pray.

    2.Describe a time when you experienced a disconnect because of labels. (page 37)
    Someone very important in my life put me down and said negative things to my all the time. Whether it was jealousy or spite I don’t know. As I grew up and moved on my own I realized those labels meant nothing and I looked for new ones.

    • Christine says:

      I like your plan of attack against the enemy: “when I am not having the greatest day I remember my label and mediate and pray.”

  • Erika says:

    1.Are you wearing the faith label “Favored by God” and if not, why?

    There are times I wear the “Favored by God” label. I try my best to confess it each morning. Confessing it really helps me believe it. Although I have days I don’t feel like I am favored. I believe those feelings arise when things don’t seem to be going well.

    2.Describe a time when you experienced a disconnect because of labels. (page 37)
    I felt a disconnect because of my skin color. I am dark shinned and got teased about it quite often. My confidence would go out of the window if someone called me a name or said something negative about being dsrk skinned, The labels gave me a complex about myself.

    • Christine says:

      Are the days when you are not wearing the Favored by God label the days when you skip devotions, prayer or bible study? I find it easy to walk by the flesh when I am not centered in Him. When things are not going well, I give it to God in prayer. When I am out in public, the bathroom has become my prayer closet. Gross, but necessary, as I humble myself before the Lord in a place where i can be alone.

      A Daughter of the King has many skin tones. When you look in the mirror, see what God sees, not what the world sees. You live for an audience of ONE, the LORD and His favor upon you. Vertical thinking is when you look UP and base all your thoughts and decisions through God. Horizontal thinking is when you spread your arms and look at the world around you, and form your thoughts and decisions from them. Look UP. You are beautiful to the King.

      • Erika says:

        Christine,

        I need to pay more attention to the times when I dont feel favored because it probably is when I don’t spend time with the Lord.

        You are right I do need to start looking up and seeing myself as God does. I also need to work on basing my thoughts and decisions on God. Thank you for those beautiful words.

        Erika

  • Marietta says:

    1.Are you wearing the faith label “Favored by God” and if not, why?
    Yes.

    2.Describe a time when you experienced a disconnect because of labels. (page 37) I am retired and a disconnect for me is that some people think retired means I have nothing important to do.

    3.Which character do you best relate: Martha, Jezebel, Rachel or Job’s Wife? Why? (page 47) I related best with Martha because I think she felt victimized and resentful.

    4.Share something you enjoyed from this week’s lesson.
    I enjoyed p. 42 “When the world …” I marked this as a good reference for the many times when I fall into worldly thinking and the verses to correct my thinking.

    • Christine says:

      Thank you for the perspective on the “retired” label, it brings a perspective I did not consider before.

      You are wearing the Spirit of Resentment, and you can pray this away. I too carried the label and saw it caused a spirit of Revenge in my home. Once I prayed it away, the bitterness was chopped at the root.

      • Marietta says:

        Thank you, Christine. I appreciate your direct “calling out” of the spirit I carry. It is becoming (through these lessons) very much up front in my awareness. I know God wants to heal me of this destructive and harmful label and I am willing. And thank you for revealing your experience with this label. That is a true encouragement.

        • Christine says:

          I’m just reflecting what I hear in your words. I’ve carried the labels of shame, resentment,and bitterness- and this is the second time I am doing this study. I’ve also completed Breaking Free, Why Godly People Do Ungodly Things, Lies Women Believe and The Truth That Sets Them Free, and Believe God– so my perspective is one who has been carried through these labels into a new label based on faith and truth. I am just like you and all the other women in this study; God did not make me perfect, He made me human.

  • Mindy says:

    1.Are you wearing the faith label “Favored by God” and if not, why? Yes, thank you, God.

    2.Describe a time when you experienced a disconnect because of labels. (page 37) I am single at 40 and there are times I feel judged and looked at like “something must be wrong with her” based on this.

    3.Which character do you best relate: Martha, Jezebel, Rachel or Job’s Wife? Why? (page 47) Job’s wife. I have a tendency to become my own God and take matters into my own hands to get the results I want rather than having patience and awaiting God’s will.

    4.Share something you enjoyed from this week’s lesson.
    I liked p 42’s scripturally-based contrasts to our world’s thinking versus God’s mind.

    • Christine says:

      Jesus was single and 30, living in a time when marriage and children were valued as much as wealth. Nothing was wrong with him. 🙂

      I saw independence when you wrote “I have a tendency to become my own God and take matters into my own hands to get the results I want rather than having patience and awaiting God’s will.” Are you dependent on Jesus, or dependent on Mindy? Do you listen for His voice, or yours? Spend some time at the feet of the Savior and let Him speak into your heart.

      • Mindy says:

        Thank you very much for your response :o) I have been very independent and understand I’ve lived with a dependency on Mindy. I’m so thankful he’s never given up on me, and loves me so much that he always calls me back. He’s working such wonders in my heart and mind, and these studies really help me stay in His word and hear him speaking to my heart. Thank you again – I appreciate your loving post and am doing just as you advise.

  • Sue says:

    1.Are you wearing the faith label “Favored by God” and if not, why?

    Absolutely not! I haven’t been believing I am worthy to Him.

    2.Describe a time when you experienced a disconnect because of labels. (page 37)

    Being a smoker, even after being saved in Jesus. Always feeling “less than” as a Christian. Having to hide my bad habit. Having to believe I should be able to do anything in Christ Jesus. Not really wanting to quit smoking.

    3.Which character do you best relate: Martha, Jezebel, Rachel or Job’s Wife? Why? (page 47)

    Definitely Rachel: defeat, cynacism, apathy — but at the core all about things not being the way she wanted.

    4.Share something you enjoyed from this week’s lesson.

    Identifying the root of my dissatisfaction with my job is that I am not believing Jeremiah 29:11. As simple as that, I allowed defeat and cynacism to take a greater place than God’s Word on the subject. The root caused cynacism and bitterness about the job and environment rather than leading me to what God wants me to do in that (depressing) job and environment.

    • Christine says:

      If you feel unworthy before the King, you should pray about this and ask for a pure heart. Pray specifically for the Lord to reveal hidden daggers or lies planted by the enemy. Pray for the breath of the Holy Spirit to wash away anything in your heart that does not belong there.

      The cigarette has become an idol in your life, and God wanst to be on the throne of your thought closet. Pray daily, each time you place the idol in your lips, and ask the Lord to fill your craving with more of His presence and His Word.

      Another helpful prayer is what I call the “Body Prayer.” When you lie down at night, start praying over your body. Always start with your toes, and pray “Lord, I ask for you to remove any cells in my toes which are not healthy. If they are damaged from smoking, find the damaged cells in my toes and remove them. Wash them with pure water, replace them with the breath of Jesus.” Then go to your ankles, legs, etc until you end with your head. Repeat the prayer from toe to head, each night before you sleep. You can also use the body prayer over bitterness, asking the Lord to remove the bitterness in your toes, ankles, etc. Just stick to one “theme” at a time until you feel you have healed.

  • Deanna says:

    This Bible study has really opened my eyes to how destructive my thoughts can be. Because I am aware of the difference between what I think and what God thinks, I will be more aware to put on the Full Armor of God, and pray and rebuke the lies that the enemy wants me to believe. I want to wear the label God desires for me to wear. I will be less concerned with what I think and more concerned with what my Lord thinks..

    My label goes back to High school, when I was an underacheiver. That label has stuck with me and still haunts me when I feel doubt about the ability to homeschool my children. I am not the same person I was, but I still allow the disconnect to occur when I feel I am failing as a homeschool mom. It is only when I pray and ask the Lord for wisdom, that I know these feelings are lies and untruths being spoken by the Liar.

    During my life I have been able to identify with each of thes women. Thankfully the Lord pulled me out of my pit of despair and wrapped His loving arms around me. I praise God for His loving grace. Today, I can identify with Martha. Sometimes I get so preoccupied with what needs to get done, that I forget to sit at the feet of Jesus and soak in His love..

    This lesson has been such a blessing to me. I will be much more aware of the fruit that I am producing and will ask God to prune me.

    I hope you all have a beautiful Christ filled week!

    • Christine says:

      It is amazing that we can still wear labels from high school, a time in our lives when we face so many hurdles. I pray that I am able observe the labels my children wear and help them see themselves as God sees them.

  • Sue Alice says:

    1. I think that the only time I wear this label is when I am alone with God….for is is the only time I am happy, contend and at peace with myself….the rest of the time I am one unhappy angry, mad, full of temper person again….Satan is messing with my life BIG TIME right now.

    2. I am not sure one this one I did understand the question.

    3. Martha…for I serve better, than I listen at times.

    4. I learned by having roots they cause bitterness in us….and we need to bury those roots deeply and keep them buried.

    • Sue says:

      When reading your first sentence in #1 I was thinking Yes this is true for me as well! And then I even feel guilty about that! Because I should be serving and doing instead of studying and praying, when studying and praying is my happiest time. Anyway, by the time I read through your whole response in #1, I laughed out loud! It is so throughly open and succinct, so true too in many ways for me. For me I am very well controlled (‘cuz I worked on my anger issue for many years) but just because I turn it into cynacism and apathy doesn’t make it any better.

    • Christine says:

      Praying for you Sue as the enemy throws flaming darts your way.

  • Jennifer says:

    It is my absolute daily desire to wear the faith label Favored by God. I am in constant conversation with the Lord; He is always on my mind; and He restores my mind when I start to think faulty assumptions. For example, it is so easy to let financial circumstances define me, especially if my husband is stressed about this. But I also refer to Scripture, speaking the truth aloud to him, that God will deliver us out of any situation for His glory. I am certainly a more patient person when I wear the faith label, and I trust in the Lord. I seek the Holy Spirit and He comforts me, and God is just, He never lies and is not a hypocrite. When He said that He would answer to all who call on Him, He meant that! And that keeps me going, keeps my faith strong. Afterall, faith is also a gift from God, one that I am so grateful for.

  • Lynne says:

    1. Am I wearing Faith Label “Favored by God?” Yes and no. Yes, for the sake of Christ, I have peace with God through faith. God has given me His grace and with that comes His favor to save me from myself, faulty and all, like He favored Naomi, despite her self-imposing faulty labels.
    No, in that still living here on earth, I still fall to stinking thinking and satan’s temptations to degrade what God has made me, His, favored, redeemed, loved.(page 38 and page 43) But, my sin and weaknesses, or faulty thinking does not negate God’s label. It does cloud His gracious label from my thoughts, which is why I loved the encouragement at the end of this week to use the Weapon of the Word of God to kill bad roots and to also use it to grow good strong roots which is also a gift from God because it’s not my killing or growing, but God’s. Jennifer uses Hebrews 9:14 to tell me that God cleanses our consciences from dead works to serve the living God, for the sake of Christ’s blood. I also like Isaiah to encourage me to be in the Word which acts upon my heart and mind to change it, giving me the root of faith in Christ, to bear the fruit of faith in believing God’s truth and not the lies I impose on my thought closet.
    “Isaiah 55:10: For as the rain and the snow come down from heaven and do not return there but water the earth, making it bring forth and sprout, giving seed to the sower and bread to the eater;so shall my word be that goes out from my mouth; it shall not return to me empty, but it shall accomplish that which I purpose, and shall succeed in the thing for which I sent it.”
    I love that God uses us to encourage each other to be in the Word to hear God’s truth and I thank God for Jennifer for writing it in this study.

    2.A disconnect because of labels. In my work, I have a label, some see as a title, but is meant to convey a relationship I have with others. I often find the label a barrier, rather than the help it was meant to be to communicate why I am there in that capacity. I had begun to take it a step further and self-impose the barrier when introducing myself to new people and conveying an attitude of the work I am given to do as not worthy, conveyed by the tone I used in my fact label. After reading Naomi’s truthful faith label on page 38, I have begun to be aware of how I was imposing these assumed labels onto myself and my work, when what I want to remember is that regardless of the fact label at work, and how anyone perceives it, I am favored by God, redeemed and loved by Him and can honestly convey that I belong and that I can love them in return, by how I act, think of myself and others at work, by my tone. It’s been very freeing to remember God’s labels! It has given me a joy I don’t remember experiencing before, faulty thinking and all, God’s love for me doesn’t change!

    3.I identified with Martha. Her statement “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.” hit home. I have plenty of “If only” God had been there, done this, didn’t do that, etc. then my life would be a lot rosier.

    4.I enjoyed Page 42 that reminds me that the world’s view and God’s view are incompatible. The world’s view brings me much misery, but God’s view brings me peace and transforms me into the person I wish I was all the time, tenderhearted, compassionate, thinking of others instead of myself. This Bible Study has helped me remember the mind of God more often and Phil. 2:13, “He wills me to both will and work for His good pleasure.” On my own, I forget! When I forget, I presume and assume all over the place and that causes much misery! For myself and for others! 🙁 Thank you all for being so honest. I know I am not alone in my faulty thinking and also not alone in needing God to help me do battle against it.

    • Christine says:

      You wrote “I have plenty of “If only” God had been there, done this, didn’t do that, etc. then my life would be a lot rosier. ” In reality, God has always been there, we simply need to look UP. We are the ones who abandon Him when we stop praying before making decisions,stop listening when He sends a warning or a rebuke, stop seeking because we’re too busy. The bible never promises us a peaceful life on earth or a life without trouble; it promises us an eternal life. Our treasures wait in Heaven, for those who believe.

  • Karen says:

    1. No. I tend to think too much. I internalize a negative situation as if I did something wrong and God has abandoned me. This study is helping me to take every thought captive.And wear the faith label”favored by God”
    2.My label of not good enough feeds my disconnection with people and God.
    3. Martha of course, I assume if my prayers are not answered, God does not care.It sounds so immature. It is immature.
    3. This study is helping me with my distorted thought closet. It is renewing my mind.I am aware of my thoughts now, I don’t have to listen to my false assumptions anymore.

    • Sue says:

      “My label of not good enough feeds my disconnection with people and God” Wow, this is so so true for me. And then the resulting behavior is that I become self absorbed – not giving and serving for some period.

    • Christine says:

      Your baby photo is adorable!

      God never abandons us, we abandon Him. We hide in the darkness hoping He will not see or notice us. The unworthy label is a gift from Satan. Do you want to wear designer labels from the enemy of lies, or those of the God who loves us. God speaks in love, always. He does not make us feel bad about ourselves, He does not call us immature. We are His children and he has unending love for us. When God speaks, we draw near to Him. When Satan lies, we pull away from God. Start to filter your thoughts and ask: “Does this thought bring me closer to God?” If the answer is “yes” accept the thought and pray over it, asking for the Lord’s direction. If the answer is “no” then rebuke the thought. You need to memorize some scripture verses in order to rebuke the devil. As you study the bible, write down some of your favorites and use them to fight a negative thought.

      God is sometimes silent, and it does not mean he has abandoned us or does not care. He might be waiting for another event to happen, and the answer is inside the event. Or He waits for us to grow spiritually, so we can hear.

      The LORD is my shepherd, I lack nothing. Psalm 23:1 NIV

      I sought the LORD, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears. Those who look to him are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame. Psalm 34:4-5 NIV

      And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28 NIV

  • Erin says:

    This week hit awful close to home. I am trying, daily, to picture a cloak of God around me so that it is kind of like my Faith Label. I didn’t put into perspective how much I may be assuming and the awful impact that has on my thoughts, and ultimately actions. I have really enjoyed the scripture examples. It has awakened me to some guidance I am desperately needing. It makes me feel a little less awful to hear of people who lived in the time of Jesus also having misunderstandings and being judgmental. Every day is a new opportunity for light and positiveness!

    • Christine says:

      Love the image of the FAITH label, I think I need some of that in my wardrobe too 🙂 As women, we often wear sackcloth covered in ashes, carrying around baggage that only we can see. We hide beneath outer layers that reflect beauty and perfection, yet inside we are craving freedom from spiritual bondage. The enemy has beat us up, deformed our thinking and devalued us as children of God. Sadly, he still does this today and I am the mother of two daughters. We need to claim our spiritual territory- we are daughters of the King- and let go the the past. We fell into Satan’s traps, we lived lives that did not bring honor and glory to God, and then we heard the voice of the Shepherd calling us back like prodigal daughters. The only problem is…when we returned, we carried the sackcloth with us. We’re Christian again, born again, and we carry a painful past.

      My pastor once said that Jesus did not die for our tiny sins; we told a lie and this perfect man hung by nails on a cross. Jesus died and shed His blood because of our past. When we continue to wear our past- labels of who we once were, titles of our sins, names given to us by non-believers, and the colors of shame- we do not honor the Christ who died for us. Drop the sackcloth and pick up the purple robe of royalty with the label that says “HIS.” God is your Father and welcomes His children home with open and loving arms. Embrace them.

  • Irene says:

    1. I think I mostly wear the faith label “favored by God” but in the moments when I let my insecurities and doubts get me I need to down consciously make an effort to remind myself of this label above all and remind myself that in my heart I know God has only the best intentions for me and wants only the best for me. That I indeed can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me!

    2. A time that I experienced a disconnect I’m not sure if I understood this correctly but I think it is any time that I look at myself and see I’m overweight I immediately feel down and discouraged and self conscious call myself ugly and then immediately start thinking my husband will not be or is not attracted to me and will be tempted to leave me for someone else. This is not true though but just a result of my self labels that bring out or magnify my fears and insecurities.

    3. I relate to the character of Martha most because often I have asked God Why? In different aspects or situations even though I know He is in control I want to ask Him why he did things in such a way or let some things happen at times.

    4. I enjoyed reading the truthful labels and corresponding verses to help remind myself of the truths that I need to refocus myself on when I find myself reaching towards the negative thoughts clinging to my closet.

    • Christine says:

      Your labels reflect your sense of security, so its time to change them. God loves you no matter your past. It’s time to wear a label that says “I AM HIS. I AM LOVED BY GOD. I AM A DAUGHTER OF THE KING.” When we wear this label, it does not matter if we are not perfect in our husband’s eyes of the eyes of our friends. We are perfect in HIM. Our security and worth come from God alone. If your husband is tempted to leave, it has nothing to do with your appearance, your skills as a wife, or your intelligence. A man breaks a marriage vow because he is under the influence of Satan, and no matter what you wear, say or do, you cannot change that. Only your husband can. You can pray over him and ask Him to know Jesus, you cannot stop him if he falls into a trap of the devil. Stand your ground as a Daughter of the King and don’t let the devil steal your joy in being a wife and being who you are. Your enemy is Satan and he is the one that keeps you in bondage to negative thoughts, insecurity and fear. Highly recommend reading the book “The Invisible War” by Chip Ingram. In this book, you learn to stand on God’s Promises and claim your ground in a spiritual battle you cannot see.

  • Matie says:

    1.Are you wearing the faith label “Favored by God” and if not, why?

    For the most part, I think so.
    I can have my moments, but ever since reading week one of this book; I am learning to turn my worries into prayers. Every time I find myself drifting into a negative state of mind, I quickly turn it into a positive thought.

    4. I enjoyed completing all of the activities. I liked when we had to describe the “mind of Christ”, and how we should describe our own minds the same way we described Christ’s mind. These words came to mu mind so fast when describing Christ.

  • Ann M. says:

    3. I best relate to Martha. There is much I do not understand and can be quick to judge. Even though I remind myself that God’s ways are much much higher than my own, my broken heart betrays me. I must read and reread of God’s goodness. I wish I was more consistently joyful and encouraging.

    4. I really appreciated writing out my assumptions on day 4. The process made me realize how silly they are and how many I have. I did struggle with day 5 though. It really taxed my brain to make those connections between assumptions, roots, and fruit. Yet I was glad for the exercise. I feel like I need to let it settle in before I move on.

    • Lynne says:

      Ann M.
      I encourage you to read the entire account of the Death of Larazus.(John 11 and 12) It is a picture of God wanting to ultimately give His joy and encouragement to the eyes and hearts of a beloved family. A family we belong to through faith in Christ, thus are beloved of God, too.
      The time Martha expressed her “if only”, she also confessed her faith a few verses later in vs. 26. “Yes, Lord; I believe you are the Christ, the Son of God. . .” Mary, her sister had the same response when she saw Jesus,vs. 32, “If only you had been here, my brother would not have died.” But, her posture to fall at Jesus’ feet conveyed her confession that He was Lord. (Faulty thinking and faith can be at work at the same time.) Jesus was deeply moved by their love for their brother and by others there who loved Lazarus. However, Jesus knew all along that He would not go to Lazarus until He died so that He could show this family, and His disciples, whom He loved, that by the Word of God, Lazarus would arise from the dead and so would all who believe He is the Christ, the Savior of the world.(vs. 1-11)
      In chapter 12, 6 days before the Passover, Martha served a dinner to Jesus and His disciples, and Lazarus is at the table with them, reclining in the presence of Jesus! Here is the joy the Lord wanted us to know. As much as He knew the death was going to sadden those who loved Lazarus, He knew Lazarus’ resurrection by God’s command, would give them joy. Here is a picture of Christ’s death and resurrection that was soon to come, that with their eyes they could “see” the resurrection that follows this vail of tears and death, not only for Lazarus and Christ, but for all believers! Their joy was expressed by having a dinner for Jesus, by Martha serving and by Mary anointing Jesus with perfumed oil. Joy was expressed by serving in the capacity that God gifted them and by Lazarus simply being at His table. God is the giver of joy and encouragement in this account. Receive His joy and encouragement through His Word, told by John, that we, too, will be sitting at the table with Jesus, and be in His presence, through faith, though our thoughts are sometimes faulty and we ourselves lack consistency. Praying God would encourage your broken heart.

      • Sue says:

        Wow, I have never put all these together into such a warm and real picture. Your words truly paint a picture and I was there, right there. What a remarkable gift.

    • Christine says:

      A wounded heart needs healing. Many friends have told me about the “wounded healer” theory, once God heals you of a broken past, He uses you for His GLORY. So while the healing and removing of the bandages is painful, the reward is worth the price. Pray for gentleness when you need it, pray for intercessory prayer when you are too weak to fight the battle, and pray for His love to take up residence in your heart. Imagine your heart is divided, one side damaged and wounded, the other side glowing with God’s love. It’s time for a heart bypass, getting rid of what clogs your spiritual life and replacing it with the truth. The TRUTH is in the Word of God.

      Create in me a pure heart, O God,
      and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Psalm 51:10 NIV

  • Sarah S. says:

    1. Are you wearing the faith label “Favored by God” and if not, why?
    This study has certainly helped! Like you, Christine, alone with God I feel precious and treasured. But in the world, sometimes it’s hard to maintain that. Makes me think of Max Lucado’s children’s book “You Are Special” — where the people give each other dots on whether or not they like the person. Too many dots.

    3. Which character do you best relate: Martha, Jezebel, Rachel or Job’s Wife? Why? (page 47) Martha, also. I relate to service.
    4. Share something you enjoyed from this week’s lesson. Honestly? The list of scriptures about who we are (in Christ) on Day 1. I have put many of them on index cards. Not for memorization (yet) but to read over in the mornings as I dress to remind myself of each of those things.

    • Kathy says:

      That is such a good idea to put the “who we are” words on index cards! I am going to do that!

    • Christine says:

      You’ll really like the book “Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World.” The author gives many examples of how to sit at the feet of Jesus, while at the same time serving Him. We need a balance between worship and service or we give so much of ourselves, we’re like an exhausted bride meeting her groom.

      Better is one day in your courts
      than a thousand elsewhere;
      I would rather be a doorkeeper in the house of my God
      than dwell in the tents of the wicked. Psalm 84:120 NIV

  • Renee says:

    1. I try to always remember the “favored by God” label. Then a situation will come up where I am not being successful at something (like a sport) and I get discouraged and even begin to worry what other people are thinking about me. I am betting quicker at stopping this kind of thinking by recognizing it as the enemy and pray for my thinking to change. Quoting the appropriate scripture is better. “The weapon of the Word kills bad roots” page 52.

    • Christine says:

      Start your day with the “favored by God” label and see what happens. I have noticed when I delay my bible study or devotions to the end of my day, it is easier for the enemy to throw darts. He knows I am busy, distracted and not giving God my full attention- so he throws discouragement or doubt into my path. When I am refreshed with the Word in my heart, the darts just bounce away like Nerf balls 😉

  • Necco says:

    1.Are you wearing the faith label “Favored by God” and if not, why?
    I am working on wearing it daily now that I have studied the truth from this week’s study. How refreshing to carry around the eternal truth of our Savior verses the others I have struggled with!

    2.Describe a time when you experienced a disconnect because of labels. (page 37) Not sure at this time.

    3.Which character do you best relate: Martha, Jezebel, Rachel or Job’s Wife? Why? (page 47) Although I struggle most like Martha, I noticed an uncanny resemblence to Job’s wife this time. I do struggle with taking control of the situation and not believing that God is capable of handling the situation. How untrue! I know He reigns but struggle with letting His will be done verses doing it on my own…that only leads to trouble!

    4.Share something you enjoyed from this week’s lesson.
    I enjoyed learning about the presumptions and how roots and fruit work. To use the Word as my sword to uproot the bad roots will help me have room for the fruit He has intended for my life.

    • Christine says:

      What a blessing to be wearing His label! God, the Designer!!! Since I love clothes, I can just imagine turning our clothing inside out and seeing His signature inside “Made By God. With Love.”

      I struggled with control and now I filter everything through prayer. “Let HIS will be done. Let HIS words flow from my heart. Let HIM reign on earth, I am just a vessel serving the Lord.” The next time you face a challenge or decision, pause and be still. Psalm 37:7. Wait for the voice of the Spirit and not the voice of Necco. Allow Him to groom you and see what happens.

  • Kathy says:

    1. I am not consistent in wearing the label “favored by God”. My prayer this week has been that I will be extremely sensitive to what is going on in my mind and always replace a wrong label with a true label.
    2. My label is dealing with the root of fear. I fear I will become obese, I fear that my children will choose the wrong path for their lives, I fear that people will perceive me as inefficient, irresponsible and lazy; that they will not see or care what is truly in my heart.
    3. I relate mostly to Rachel. When things don’t go according to “my plan” I find fault with those around me and lose hope that the situation is ok the way it is or can be changed. This was very thought provoking for me!
    4. thinking about “false assumptions” this week really helped me. It was very difficult to pinpoint and label false assumptions. The more I thought about it and asked God to reveal false assumptions to me, the clearer these became.

    • Christine says:

      These scriptures may be helpful to fight fear:

      I keep my eyes always on the LORD. With him at my right hand, I will not be shaken. Psalm 16:8 NIV

      Truly he is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will not be shaken. Psalm 62:6 NIV

      There you saw how the LORD your God carried you, as a father carries his son, all the way you went until you reached this place. Deut 1:31 NIV

  • Yvette says:

    1. I am trying more and more in my relationship with God to walk in the favor of God. Constantly asking God to help me renew my mind on this as its easy to get caught up in what your “flesh” says over you.

    2. My label is dealing with the root of bitterness. my fruit from that root is anger and hurt. Family issues that’s been going on for years as caused me to just lash out in anger, espeically if a person is reminding me of that family member behavior. Asking God to heal and deliver me with that now that I realize the root!

    3. I will say I relate to Rachel. I tend to ask God why when something is not going my way rather than saying I trust you God that you know what’s best for me. This was a big issue with me and trying to pursue Nursing. Yet the word does says our ways are not his ways and our thoughts are not his thoughts. Sometimes its just difficult to accept.

    4. I enjoyed the fault asscumptions vs. the facts. I realize I gotta ask God to reprogram my way of thinking. To stand more on what God words says and not on what been said over me from family memeber or society. This study is really sending healing for me!

    • Christine says:

      Your family does not define you, as you are royalty in God’s eyes.

      This resurrection life you received from God is not a timid, grave-tending life. It’s adventurously expectant, greeting God with a childlike “What’s next, Papa?” God’s Spirit touches our spirits and confirms who we really are. We know who he is, and we know who we are: Father and children. And we know we are going to get what’s coming to us—an unbelievable inheritance! We go through exactly what Christ goes through. If we go through the hard times with him, then we’re certainly going to go through the good times with him! Romans 8:15-15 Message

  • I wrote about labels last week on my blog too! Must be a lesson I need to fully “get” 🙂 Thank you for reminding me to be who God says I am and not who anyone else says!

    Here is my article: Labels Are For More Than Just Clothing

    Blessings,
    Mel
    Please feel free to stop by: Trailing After God

  • Melissa says:

    1. Are you wearing the faith label “Favored by God” and if not, why? I do at times and other times I sink into the labels that other people place on me because they are easier to believe. I mean it is so amazing that God would favor me. Sometimes it is overwhelming.

    3. Which character do you best relate: Martha, Jezebel, Rachel or Job’s Wife? Why? Rachel because I tend to want my way and to put God on my time schedule, but I strive to be more like Martha.

    • Christine says:

      The fact that God adores us and loves us, no matter what, always brings joyful tears to my eyes. His love is not like human love, so when we feel God’s authentic love, it can sometimes feel overwhelming. Why me, Lord, why do you love me?

      I was reading a book last night with a suggestion that bible study is a time to invite Jesus into our living room. We sit at his feet (like Mary, not Martha) and just enjoy being with Jesus. When we forget to study, make excuses, or find a lack of energy, the author reminds us that Jesus is still there, in the living room, waiting for us to come to Him. He invites us, He draws near to us, and when we neglect Him, He waits for our return. This was a beautiful image! I recommend the book “How to Have a Mary Heart in a Martha World” I’m reading it a second time its so good.

  • margaret Hardy says:

    1. No , before this study I did not wear the faith labels of the bible. But this study has changed that. I am wearing new labels!!!! When bad thoughts come I have been amazed at how quickly I catch the lies of the enemy and start to dwell on God thoughts!
    2.A time of feeling disconnect because of labeling would be not feeling good enough to be all that God called me to be ex. Mom, wife etc . Because of the labels I wore growing up. I was bullied in school and had a lot of situations growing up that made me feel inadequate , insecure, and not worthy or good.
    4.I have to say, I got a little behind my lessons this week and am still catching up, But I would love to share with the group that this lesson has really opened my eyes to how messy my thought closet was and how to change that! Blessings to all of you 🙂

    • Christine says:

      I’m glad the study has opened your eyes to a mess you did not otherwise see. I tend to overlook the mess in my closet- the piles of “to-do’s” that demand attention. If I don’t look, maybe I will not see it. it’s like avoiding the mirror so I do not see the weight I need to lose.

    • Christine says:

      It’s very difficult to rid ourselves of childhood labels, we’ve worn them the longest and they become comfortable, like a favorite pair of jeans. Imagine you are sitting in your living room, Jesus is in your favorite chair, and you are at His feet. What label would Jesus place on you? Daughter, Servant, Favored by God….let your imagination run with this. Also, look over at the fireplace and see the childhood labels- fleshly gifts- and burn them away. They are of this world and not from the Spirit, let them go. Allow yourself to be defined by the Spirit inside you, not the people outside you.

  • Lynn Colon says:

    I have experienced some disconnection when it comes to appearance. I used to wear a label of I’m not pretty enough. I tried to fix it buying tons of clothes and that lead me to more emptiness and loneliness. I have been learning to love myself and feel confident about the way God created me.
    I think I’m more like Martha. I like to serve others in many ways. The enemy tried to confuse me at times making me feel stressed about serving at church and school, but I have been praying about this.

    • Christine says:

      You make a good point about pretty clothes filling emptiness and loneliness. I see my tween daughter doing this right now, she fills her room with more and more clothes, never finding what she wants. She is looking for something intangible. That void can only be filled with God.

    • Christine says:

      The enemy will cloud your vision and make you stumble. Claim God’s promises and facts and remind Satan who are are and who’s Voice you follow! Rebuke him.

  • Christine says:

    1. Are you wearing the faith label “Favored by God” and if not, why? Sometimes when I am alone with God, I wear this label and soak in His love. Other times, I feel the weight of the sackcloth.

    3. Which character do you best relate: Martha, Jezebel, Rachel or Job’s Wife? Why? Martha because she was committed to service.

    4. I did not realize that we anger at people who place labels on us. The root of bitterness is wearing labels we do not deserve. Why is it so easy to accept the bad labels, and so difficult to embrace the truth labels?

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