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Conversation Peace Online Bible Study | Week 6

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Welcome back to our final week of the Conversation Peace online Bible study.  What an amazing six weeks it has been as we studied and learned the power of transformed speech.  Being a lifetime learner was the focus of our final lesson from Mary Kassian.

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This week, learning about having a teachable spirit resonated with me.  With a teachable spirit also comes the willingness to accept correction, or discipline.  There’s that word we like to leave out: discipline.  Webster’s dictionary defines discipline as “training that corrects, molds, or perfects that mental faculties or moral character.” Isn’t this definition just how God disciplines us? His discipline is not harsh, does not scar, or tear down, it corrects, builds us up and moves us into the direction of better actions.  But, it does hurt.  And it’s going to, but the end result in becoming a better student and growing in our walk far outweighs the pain of changing.

When I was school age, I loved learning new things. I was always so excited to make the trip to the store to purchase school supplies.  Notebooks, highlighters, pens, pencils, binders.. etc. I would be in heaven.  When I would go to classes I loved, loved being there.  I picked up things easily most of the time, but then I got to geometry, and I hit a wall. Learning all the different shapes, calculating the area and degrees of angles was so hard for me.  Every time I tried to figure it out and thought I was making progress, another deduction of points, another low grade on a test.  I did not think I would pass the class.

At one point, I was not excited about learning at all.  Isn’t this how we sometimes are with our relationship with God?  I realized this week that there are some times, like during this study, when I want to walk away and do something that is easier.  Transforming my speech and words is hard, and there were times when I thought, “I am not going to be able to control my tongue, so I will just stop talking to people.” Funny isn’t it, as if I could do that.  As we see in our lesson this week, it is not out of our reach. God wants us to be successful and He will always provide the way, and we will be able to reach and achieve it with Him as our guide.  He is committed to me, so I need to commit to Him.

This study has shown us that this is not a one time process. It is continual.  We are always in a cycle of producing a harvest with our words.  When we see the fruit of our labor, it excites us to begin again.  The last five weeks have shown us that there are many steps to transforming our speech, but once put all together in sequence, our words will come forth and bless, lift up, show love and build positive and loving relationships.  God has given us His guarantee that He is with us and that He has given us what we need to use our words for His glory.  Ask yourself this question: Do you feel more at peace with your conversations now that you did when we first began this study?

Thank you for joining us in this study. We have been blessed by your presence each week and your commitment to studying and growing in your faith.  Have an amazing summer, and we hope to see you soon for our next study.


  • Join a small group for study and fellowship
  • Give God a moment of praise for being faithful to you during this study
  • Reflect on how your words and attitude has changed since beginning this study
  • Register for Believing God Beth Moore study (starts August 10th) or
  • Register for The Holy Spirit Unleashed in You Kay Arthur Inductive Study (starts August 10th)
  • Write a review on the Conversation Peace member book/study guide- CLICK HERE

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS FOR THE WEEK: (You can answer in your small group or post a comment here on the website if you do not have a Facebook account)

  1. Why do you believe that Jesus was the best teacher and the best student? How can we model this behavior? (page 164-165)
  2. Have you committed to achieving transformed speech, or have you given up and decided that it is out of your reach? Why? (page 169)
  3. Think about this statement: “Your desire for transformed speech is an indicator of your longing for God.” Do you agree or disagree with this statement? Why? (page 171/184)
  4. Read this statement and personalize it by putting your name in the blanks:“My Spirit, who is on                                   and my words that I have put in                         ‘s mouth will not depart from                                    ‘s mouth!”  (Signed, Father God, the Almighty)How does this guarantee give you hope that you can speak the words that God wants you to speak? (page 180)
  5. Bonus Question: Share one thing you will take away from this study.

I am posting this activity for you to do during the week on your own time:


Give a prayer of thanks to God for completing this study. Thank Him for the progress you have seen in your speech over the last 6 weeks.

Since our study has ended, how will you stay connected to God going forward so that He will continue to transform your speech?  Write your answers in your journal.

Be Blessed,sonya morris nelson


Conversation Peace Online Bible Study | Week 5

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Welcome back to Week Five of our summer Bible study online.  Can you believe how much we have learned in five weeks?  This week was especially personal to me as God showed me so many areas that I needed to construct and reconstruct in my life.  We learned how to build relationships that we have always wanted to have with others.  Let me share a story with you.

The community where I live has one main road that goes in and out of the community. It has been this way for years.  Well recently it was decided to widen the road, to make it two lanes in each directions with turn only lanes to help the traffic flow better.  This is what we all wanted. We have complained at borough meetings about the terrible traffic.  So they finally listened, we are getting more lanes.  But, we never considered that in order to do this there would be a sacrifice on our part, the traffic would be a little worse.  In order to get the road of our dreams, construction needed to be done.  Beams and other equipment needed to be placed along the side of the road, new electricity poles had to be placed.  Seems as though we would sit in traffic for double the time as before.  I must admit, I do not like to sit in traffic.  So you can imagine, in my haste, I was so annoyed by the traffic and the construction.  I wanted it all done in the evening when no one needed to get to work, or run errands.  One day, I was talking to my husband, or should I say complaining, and he said to me, “They do have to build a new road, and maybe that would not be the best time for them to work.”

This reminded me so much of our lesson on The Power of Construction.  We learned how we must lay tracks to build up those relationships that were damaged, new, or even ones that we already have but just needed some adjusting.  As I was frustrated with the construction needed to build the perfect road in my community, I realized that to build those perfect or great relationships in my life, I needed to lay some of those tracks in my relationships.  Ouch.   I really needed to work on doing a better job of encouraging others.  I realized it really isn’t that difficult to tell someone “good job” or “you did a wonderful job in the choir today.”

1 Thessalonians 5:11 says, “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” and Hebrews 3:13 says, “ But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.”  So I, we are called to encourage each other and build each other up every second, every minute, every hour.  Eye opening.

God really speaks to me during these lessons each week, does He do the same to you?  It’s like they are tailored made for me.  I am so grateful to God for ministering to me each week thru this study.

This wee, we learned that it is necessary for us to construct these areas of our relationships so that they are meaningful according to God’s will.  By doing this we can help others grow, and flourish.  We can speak life, we can show commitment to others, we can give feedback that corrects with love, we can speak at the right time, and we can forgive, how about that!

The most important of all this week was my realizing that in order to build these tracks in our relationships, we must rely on the Holy Spirit guiding us in our conversations and how we interact with others.  There are so many opportunities that come up where we can see only conflict and hurt, but if we dare to allow the Holy Spirit to use us to see opportunities to show love, what better, sweeter and more loving relationships we will have!  Isn’t that worth the trouble of construction?


  • Join a small group for study and fellowship.
  • Study and memorize our Breath Freshener for this week: Ephesians 4:29
  • Give God praise during your devotion time for your growth during this study
  • Read Week 6 in your workbook
  • Register for Believing God Beth Moore Study (starts August 10)  or
  • Register for the Holy Spirit Unleashed Kay Arthur Inductive Study (starts August 10)

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS FOR THE WEEK: (You can answer in your small group or post a comment here on the website if you do not have a Facebook account)

  1. Share an example of a time when you received positive encouragement from another person that helped you thru a difficult situation or brightened your day. (page 130)
  2. Mary Kassian describes two common behaviors of the “Hiding Hound” fighting behavior as the silent treatment and walking out.How do these two behaviors create more conflict in the situation for you and for your relationship with the other person? (page 132)
  3. Think about the types of unfaithful speech you participate in: (Do you spread gossip, slander others, or do you listen to others slander and spread gossip?)Why is unfaithful speech so offensive to the Lord? How can we turn this into “faithful speech” (reliable, loving, committed)?
  4. Colossians 3:12-14 says: “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.  Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.  And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”How will you keep yourself clothed properly with the eight items listed in the scripture above? How does this cultivate positive relationships?

I am posting this activity for you to do during the week on your own time:

PERSONAL REFLECTION: Think of one or two people you would like to encourage periodically.  Choose one person to encourage weekly or even daily over the next few months.  Write in your journal how this relationship improved as a result of your encouragement and how both of you were blessed.

Be Blessed,

sonya morris nelson

Conversation Peace Online Bible Study | Week 4

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conversation peace online bible studyWelcome Back to our Summer Bible Study, Conversation Peace by Mary Kassian.  This week we learned about the battle tactics we often use in our conversations with others.  What a powerful week of study it was for me, as I realized that still struggle with some of those battle tactics that I thought I had surrendered to God.

James 4:1-3 states, “What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you?  You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God.  When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.” Wow did this verse begin my reality check.  The root of this for me was pride.  Now sometimes pride shows itself by being arrogant, but my reality check showed me that I am insecure in some areas.  God showed me that even when I feel like I am lacking I am still being prideful because in that moment, it is all about me, when I should be relying on God to lead and guide me.  Remember God qualifies the called.  

This really hit me hard.  Can I share something deeper with you? I really struggled doing the blog and questions each week for Conversation Peace.  Now I wanted to do it, but as each week came up, I would always second guess my questions, and my writing.  I had inner strife because I was feeling that I lacked what I saw in other writers.  Feedback became attacks in my mind and I even wanted to stop doing them.  Imagine that.  But God showed me that  I needed His peace that would destroy and bring down barriers. I began to embrace the study and allow it to minister to me and then share what I learned each week.  My conversations with Christine Abraham became more of a partnership, as it had always been, full of positive conversations.  Thank You Lord!

There were many wonderful take-aways from this week’s lesson.  Our lesson ended with our call to servanthood.  This is difficult for us at times because being a true servant of God means we are vulnerable, we have to let our guards down.  We may get hurt by others.  Christ’s sacrifice was the ultimate, His love for us and willingness to obey His Father is one that we can never repay.  But when we model His behaviors we become more loving, more willing to sacrifice our rights for others.  We open up to others and minister and share our experiences with them.  We become willing to do whatever God calls us to do, because we know and trust that He will carry us and He will give us all that we need to accomplish His will.

I pray that you and I together, will be able to continue to tear down the walls of pride that so easily get us distracted and off course with our relationship with God.  Letting go of control, judgement, haste, and a sense of pride we can grow closer to God and become His true servants.


  • Join a small group for study and fellowship.
  • Study and memorize our Breath Freshener for this week: Proverbs 17:19
  • Identify where you can obey God more and become a true servant for Him.
  • Read Week 5 in your workbook
  • Visit the Conversation Peace website for more resources
  • Register for the Believing God Beth Moore study (starts Aug. 10) OR
  • Register for the Kay Arthur inductive study (starts Aug. 10)

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS FOR THE WEEK: (You can answer in your small group or post a comment here on the website if you do not have a Facebook account)

  1. Mary Kassian describes the “high gate of battle” as when we enter conversations with our swords drawn. Even if we do not strike, we assume a posture to defend or to attack. Why do you think you enter certain conversations ready to battle? (page 99-100)
  2. On a scale of 1 to 5 (with 1 being easy and 5 being very difficult) where do you fall when you approach conversations with others? Are you above correction or willing to be corrected? (page 113)
  3. Mary Kassian lists 3 areas where we fail when being hasty in our conversations: 1) failure to restrain assumptions, 2) failure to restrain words, and 3) failure to restrain anger Which area do you most often show? What do you think would happen if you made it a habit of pausing and thinking before you react?(page 116)
  4. How would you define the Christian concept of servanthood?  If you adopted Christ’s servant heart, how would this impact your relationships with others? (page 120)

I am posting this activity for you to do during the week on your own time:

PERSONAL REFLECTION: Let’s revisit scripture memorization.  Are you memorizing our Breath Freshener scriptures each week? If so, how has memorizing the scriptures help you during the week?

Be Blessed,

sonya morris nelson