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Lies Women Believe Online Bible Study Week 10

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Welcome back to womens online bible study as we finish Lies Women Believe by Nancy Leigh DeMoss. I did not want to write this today because I’ve been so blessed by the study and the women in my small group… I don’t want it to end! We’ve examined 40 lies women believe and we looked at numerous scripture Truths to counter the lies. Week by week Nancy has challenged us to look for the lies we’ve been living by. Her summary in chapters ten and eleven really pull this study together!

During the bible study we saw how the enemy sets traps and tangles us with his lies. We also gained freedom from bondage by studying scripture. The two major points of our study were:

  1. Believing lies places us in bondage
  2. The truth has the power to set us free

Our bondage begins when we accept the lie and allow the enemy to rule over our thoughts. Our freedom is claimed when we stand firm in scripture.

When Jesus spoke in scripture he spoke of the truth.  He even equipped us with the Spirit of Truth!

  • Yet because I tell the truth, you do not believe me! John 8:45 NIV
  • Can any of you prove me guilty of sin? If I am telling the truth, why don’t you believe me? John 8:46 NIV
  • But when he, the Spirit of truth, comes, he will guide you into all the truth. He will not speak on his own; he will speak only what he hears, and he will tell you what is yet to come. John 16:13 NIV
  • He chose to give us birth through the word of truth, that we might be a kind of firstfruits of all he created. James 1:18 NIV

Jesus came to teach because so many were misled by religious leaders and rituals, they did not recognize the Truth when they saw Him.  “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” John 14:6 NIV

To know the truth we need to know Jesus. To know Jesus, we need to read scripture. If you’re using the Companion Guide then you had the experience of writing out the truths and corresponding scripture verses. Putting the words on paper, in my own handwriting, was a moving experience for me. As I wrote across the page I imagined the same words written into my heart. It was quite powerful! I then identified the truths I needed to claim most and printed them on a card with the related scripture verse. I’ll meditate and memorize them so I’m more resistant to deception.

Speak truth into your hearts. Stay in relationship with Jesus.

If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples.  Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free. John 8:31-32 NIV

Prayer Requests

Our Prayer Wall is the place to reach out with your prayer needs and praise reports. Please visit the page and pray for those people who are asking for you to lift them up in prayer.

For Next Week

  • Pray for the women who are still completing this study
  • Check in with your Small Group Leader
  • Sign up for the next study

Group Discussion- Answer ONE question or as many as you like

  1. Look at the 40 lies in the table of contents for the book Lies Women Believe. During the course of this study, which lies have deceived you most? How have these lies kept you in bondage?
  2. What truths do you need to claim today?
  3. If you were to write a scripture verse from this study and carry it with you, which verse would you select?
  4. Would you recommend this bible study to a friend? Why or why not?

Have a great week…share what you have learned with others as you walk in Truth!

God is good…always!

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Lies Women Believe Online Bible Study Week 9

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Welcome back to the Womens bible study as we discuss Lies Women Believe by Nancy Leigh DeMoss, week nine. Some of you have sent emails letting me know you’ve already finished the study. Others started late and are reading  behind the group, while many just finished reading chapter nine. Next week is our last week of study and then we’ll have a three week break for everyone to finish their current study. Be sure to order your books for the next bible study so they arrive by April 30th.

Our lesson this week examined lies we believe about our circumstances. The lesson was perfectly timed (as always) when I found myself encouraging my teenager daughter over her circumstances. In tears she cried “God hates me! He lets bad things happen to me and I just know He just hates me!” Sometimes as adults we can sound just like a teenage girl! We look up and instead of seeing a Father who loves us, our vision is clouded by our circumstances and we can’t see Truth. This is one reason why bible study and reading scripture is so very important.

Nancy Leigh DeMoss exposed these lies during week nine:

  1. If my circumstances were different, I would be different
  2. I shouldn’t have to suffer
  3. My circumstances will never change, this will go on forever
  4. I just can’t take it anymore
  5. It’s all about me

Once you have crawled out of this victim mentality, it’s easier to see its ugly head when it appears in others. The victim blames life on circumstances while the victor seeks Jesus. The victim stays in a comfort zone of depression, while the victor seeks healing. The victim lives in darkness, while the victor lives in the Light. True identity theft is when Satan keeps you in bondage to victim mentality. He convinces you that you’re a victim of circumstances. Nancy warns us “if we fail to see the hand of God behind our circumstances, we will be vulnerable to confusion, frustration, bitterness, anger and despair.”

Victims believe they are powerless and therefore do not seek the blood-stained hands of Jesus. They turn away from forgiveness, mercy, grace and love. They hide in their misery of their comfort zones.

As I explained to my teenager daughter, we will suffer on this side of eternity. Christian lives are filled with hope, not perfection. To be Christ-like and follow Him does not mean you will not suffer. Sometimes we suffer from our own actions, sometimes we suffer from the actions of others, and sometimes we suffer for unknown reasons. Yet in our suffering we find a magnificent God and an indescribable joy. You cannot find it if you do not seek Him.

Be faithful, even to the point of death, and I will give you life as your victor’s crown. Revelation 2:10 NIV

You my dear daughter…are an Heiress.

Truth is….it’s all about God and His will. Live in obedience, in suffering and in joy.

Be blessed by your relationship with the King no matter your circumstance.

Circumstance: a condition, detail, part, or attribute, with respect to time, place, manner,agent, etc., that accompanies, determines, or modifies a fact or event; a modifying or influencing factor: Source dictionary.com

Your circumstance is a condition and it changes over time, just as you went from being a teenager to an adult. May you persevere and walk by faith, not by sight. 2 Cor 5:7 NKJV

Prayer Requests

Our Prayer Wall is the place to reach out with your prayer needs and praise reports. Please visit the page and pray for those people who are asking for you to lift them up in prayer.

For Next Week

  • Pray for the women who are doing this study with you.
  • Read Chapter Ten and Eleven in your book and companion guide.
  • Look at the list of Key Resources on page 269 for topics addressed in this book
  • Check in with your Small Group Leader
  • Sign up for the next study

Group Discussion- Answer ONE question or as many as you like

  1. What circumstance do you blame for your lack of joy?
  2. Why is suffering inescapable as a human?
  3. What fruit has suffering produced in your life?
  4. Share your thoughts about this week’s lesson.

Have a great week…share what you are learning with others as you grow in truth!

God is good…always!

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Lies Womens Believe Online Bible Study Week 8

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Welcome back to the Womens Bible Cafe! We’re almost finished with  Lies Women Believe by Nancy Leigh DeMoss as we  discuss week eight. Our lesson this week focused on emotions and truth in scripture.  Nancy writes “I know of no other tool the enemy uses more effectively to lead us as women into bondage than our emotions.” This past week we examined our  emotions against scripture and God’s promises. We learned that too often and too quick we believe and act on these emotions.

One example is how we react to the emotion of anger. If we sat in a room together and I asked how many of you regretted making a decision in anger, more than half of you would raise your hands. The feeling of anger can cause us to have affairs, gossip, use hurtful words, break something, seek revenge…and much more. Sometimes we justify our anger by our physical situation- illness, menstruation, menopause, exhaustion or ailments. Other times we justify our anger with verbal defenses so strong, the best attorney couldn’t disagree with us. For this reason scripture warns us to be on guard for anger and watch our words carefully. Satan can use your anger to hurt or injure another person and cause you shame for your actions.

Anxiety is another emotion we act upon. We’ve looked at several scripture verses reminding us to keep peace and be calm. When anxiety overpowers us, Satan uses it to worsen our situation and draw us apart from God. We attempt to control the situation and prevent further trouble, yet in doing so we often dig deeper holes.

The best and obvious solution for controlling our emotions is scripture and prayer. When we are in the presence of God, our emotions are easier to manage. We’ll recognize them and act upon God’s will, not our feelings at the time.

As I finished reading  this chapter I realize that some emotions stem from chemical imbalances and require medical attention. Mood disorders, depressions, addictions and such are best managed with professional help. Once the brain chemicals are in balance it becomes easier to filter your thoughts and control them. You should not feel guilty for taking antidepressants or mood stabilizers if your doctor has diagnosed a need for them. Too often men and women use mood altering behaviors- such as alcohol, recreational drugs, smoking, or promiscuity- to deaden their emotions and anxiety. Long-term use of this behavior has devastating effects on the person and creates an even larger problem then the one they were self-medicating!

If you haven’t done so already, take a moment and reflect on your emotions. Examine your past week and look for symptoms of emotions that need to be addressed. Then make a personal decision and commitment on how you will handle this in the upcoming week.

Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Phil 4:7-8 NLT

Suggested Reading

Battlefield of the Mind: Winning the Battle in Your Mind
By Joyce Meyer

So Long, Insecurity: You’ve Been a Bad Friend to Us
by Beth Moore

Who Switched Off My Brain? Revised: Controlling Toxic Thoughts and Emotions
by Dr. Caroline Leaf

Prayer Requests

Our Prayer Wall is the place to reach out with your prayer needs and praise reports. Please visit the page and pray for those people who are asking for you to lift them up in prayer.

For Next Week

  • Pray for the women who are doing this study with you.
  • Read Chapter Nine in your book and companion guide.
  • Look at the list of Key Resources on page 269 for topics addressed in this book
  • Check in with your Small Group Leader
  • Sign up for the next study

Group Discussion- Answer ONE question or as many as you like

  1. Why is it important for us to realize that God expresses emotions?
  2. How much do your emotions affect your actions on any given day?
  3. What advice would you give to women who are struggling with anger, shame or fear?
  4. Share your thoughts about this week’s lesson.

Have a great week…share what you are learning with others as you grow in truth!

God is good…always!