The Emotionally Destructive Marriage, Book Review

emotionallydestructivemarraigeThe Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick is an important book for women who feel trapped in destructive and dangerous relationships. As a women’s ministry leader, I decided to review the book and gather a better perspective on women in these situations. While the book does not release until September 17, I asked author Leslie Vernick for an advanced copy. I’ve read several of her books  and each one has a powerful message.

In this book The Emotionally Destructive Marriage author Leslie Vernick begins with a series of questions to help you discern if you’re in an emotionally destructive marriage. She writes “An emotionally destructive marriage is one where one’s personhood, dignity, and freedom of choice is regularly denied, criticized, or crushed. This can be done through words, behaviors, economics, attitudes and misusing the Scriptures.” The next step in the process to understanding is journaling your experience as you read the book.

The book is a must-read if you think your are in a difficult marriage and feel powerless because of your husband.  As you work through the chapters in the book, you’ll learn five patterns that destroy a relationship and damage people. Then Leslie teaches you how to build your core and how to respond in an effective manner. If what you have tried in the past is not working, then this book is certain to help. By the time you finish the book, you will also have the wisdom to decide if its time to stay or time to go. While some marriages heal and come together, others may remain destructive and it’s important to have a safety plan in case you need this.

I’d recommend this book for ministry leaders, along with the book How To Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong by Leslie Vernick. Though you can’t change your husband, you can change your attitude and your approach in communicating with him. Seeing the marriage from a Biblical perspective and through the lens of scripture is a must for any Christian woman. Find out how by reading these books.

Even if you are not married, you will still benefit from reading these books. Highly recommend for single women too!


I received this book free from the author. I was not required to write a positive review and the opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.” 



Author Christine Abraham

Founder and Ministry Director of the Womens Bible Cafe™ since 2009, Christine has led 60+ online Bible Studies for women. She completed a Graduate of Biblical Studies from Liberty University. She's an inspired writer, Amazon Top Reviewer and Blogger Follow on Facebook

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  • Jen says:

    This looks like a VERY useful book! I’m thankful to see something like this coming onto the market! I wish I’d had access to it years ago, in the midst of my own abusive marriage. I need a copy to send to my mother.

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