Welcome back to the abortion healing bible study at the Womens Bible Cafe. We’ve just finished reading week five in Surrendering the Secret by Pat Layton. This week you learned how the enemy uses anger to keep you in bondage and captivity. It’s time to let go of unforgiveness and leave it behind where it belongs. “It’s difficult to look back at your sins and failures, yet they will block your walk with the LORD,” says Pat Layton. If you are having difficulty letting go of your anger, please call the STS leaders or or send them an email. Don’t allow this strong emotion to stop your healing journey.
In your study this week you looked at the 6 keys to understanding forgiveness:
- Forgiveness is a decision we make, not a feeling
- Forgiveness is for the benefit of the person who forgives.
- Trust God to deal with your offenders; He is the ultimate judge.
- Forgiveness is releasing the person from your life to make room for peace.
- Forgiveness is a commandment from God.
- Forgiving ourselves is more difficult than forgiving others.
Source: Surrendering the Secret, Pat Payton
Release your anger and make a commitment to live in peace and joy. Open your heart to the fruits of the Spirit and let them flow from a healed past. It’s time to let go of self-hatred or unforgiveness, and replace it with the truth that you are forgiven in Christ. You are loved. Lay your burdens at the feet of Jesus…accept His perfect love. In the act of accepting the love of Christ, you will understand how God sees you as His Daughter, forgiven and free.
If God can accept this image of you…don’t you think you should accept it too? Are you believing that God is big enough to heal your sins…or do you cling to your past through pride or unbelief. Let us examine our ways and test them, and let us return to the Lord. Lamentations 3:40 NIV “Receive your gift of healing, forgiveness and peace. Your debt is paid in full the accuser is silenced and you are set free,” writes Pat Layton.
Words from past participants of the STS bible study:
“One of the hardest things about letting go of my anger was…allowing God to replace the answers of my hurting heart. I beat myself up so much and played the “what if” game a lot. What if I had never had an affair? What if I had trusted God instead of driving myself to the abortion clinic? I’d explode over the smallest things at my family who had no idea I was in such a battle.
Withholding forgiveness held me spiritually and emotionally captive when I replayed what happened with me over and over again in my mind craving a different ending and when I’d have the same story the pain would re-surface. When I finally forgave, I was able to move forward and allow God the freedom to really work on my heart. To you personally to know my debt is paid in full, the accuser is silenced and I am set free means Amazing grace. I know I don’t deserve the life I’m living out, but I don’t want to live a day without walking under my Savior’s protection. Psalm 103:10a says He does not treat us as our sins deserve. Not once has Jesus treated me like a “murderer” or whatever label the world is quick to slap on me, but instead He has treated me as His daughter, a princess of a King. I know I don’t deserve to be set free from my horrible choice of abortion, but God deserves the chance for others to see Him as the Redeemer He is to me. So I say “yes” to Him with a grateful heart beating in my chest knowing I deserve none of His grace and mercy.” Lelia Chealey STS certified leader in Nebraska…email at firstname.lastname@example.org or visit www.leliachealey.com
“One of the hardest things about letting go of my anger was letting go of my baby. As long as I continued to punish myself and deny myself joy, I was reminded of the child I never knew. Withholding forgiveness allowed me to reject peace and joy, as I thought of the bad things that happened in my life. Realizing my debt has been paid and connecting the cross with my abortion has been very helpful. I no longer walk with shame and I stopped hating myself. My anger went away as I gave it all to God and stopped carrying my heavy sin. What I did was wrong and I found grace and mercy through my faith. I thank Jesus for the life he gave and the life he saved.” Denise, past participant
Your journey continues this week. Start by viewing the video for session six (optional due to the cost) and then complete the exercises in Session Six of your Surrendering the Secret Learners Guide
Imagine you are at the foot of the cross and you’ve handed over your sin to the Savior and Redeemer. Write a letter and journal your feelings about your abortion as it relates to the cross. What does it mean to you personally to know your debt is paid in full, the accuser is silenced and you are set free?
During this abortion recovery bible study, we encourage you to pray for one another and for the leaders of the study. Please post a prayer request or praise report below, or visit the Prayer Wall.
Pat Layton Quotes
- The process of working through anger can be exhausting.
- Put the burden of resentment in God’s hands.
- God commands forgiveness for our benefit.
Group Discussion Questions
God will comfort you in the heart and voices of other women who share this journey. For confidentiality, we’ve created an anonymous email address for use during this bible study. Please use the same nickname throughout the study and use the email email@example.com if you want to remain anonymous and keep your comments confidential.
- Finish the sentence: One of the hardest things about letting go of my anger is….
- How has withholding forgiveness held you spiritually and emotionally captive?
- What does it mean to you personally to know your debt is paid in full, the accuser is silenced and you are set free?
- Post a prayer request or tell us how we can support you right now.
If you need additional support for this journey, please contact Carrie Bond from Surrendering the Secret at firstname.lastname@example.org or 817-629-9435