Last week we began an online bible study for abortion healing.While more than 50 women are actively participating in this post-abortion healing, more than 3,000+ people visited our website the day we started the study! You’re not alone in this journey as many women and men sitting beside you in church each week are also affected by past abortions. This is the final week to register and become an active participant for this online bible study- so to register for this study click here. We’ll be too far into the journey next week for late registrations and it will be months before we repeat the study here at the Bible Cafe. Prayerfully consider if you should participate in the healing journey. If you need to talk to someone who understands where you’ve been, contact Carrie Bond from Surrendering the Secret at firstname.lastname@example.org or 817-629-9435 and she’ll connect you with a STS Certified Leader in your area.
- Share the story
- Look at the truth about abortion
- Deal with anger
- Pursue forgiveness
- Work through grief and guilt
- Exchange bondage for freedom
- Conduct a service
- Share through healing
source: Surrendering the Secret
Each week you’ll be learning and journaling one of these steps and so you must have a copy of the Surrendering the Secret Learner’s Guide in order to participate in this online bible study.
This past week you completed Session One- Share the Story- and unpeeled the past. You’ve probably experienced different emotions during this past week- relief, anger, fear, numbness, shame or detachment. Over time your healing journey will lead to a peace like you’ve never know before. You need to complete all eight steps and not fall behind or jump ahead of the group during this study. The Lord will not give you more than you can handle…so He gives it to you a step at a time. Don’t get too far ahead…and don’t lag behind in this study because nobody is watching you.
“Close to 30 million women in the United States have had an abortion, resulting in the loss of over 40 million babies since abortion was legalized… Abortion is a secret that many women have held for so long that just speaking of it is often the most pivotal step in their healing,” writes Pat Layton. You took your first pivotal step this week when you journaled your story. The work you did at home was intense and we’re here to pray and support you. This is your personal journey and not everything needs to be shared.
Here’s what some of the women healed post-abortive have experienced when completing session one of the STS study:
“I am a National Trainer with Surrendering the Secret, am post abortive and healed. Any time God uses my story to help others I am thrilled! During my healing journey, writing it down for the first time was very insightful. I was surprised at the memories I had and I realized that the fear that was the basis for my choice of abortion (fear of the out of wedlock pregnancy being exposed) was the same fear that kept me hiding the abortion choice for 25 years. FEAR & PANIC: paralyzes, liars; never good counselors. My score in the Survey was 10.” Tricia Heflin, National Trainer and Group Leader for Surrendering the Secret email email@example.com or visit www.triciaheflin.com
“I remember completing Session One in 2010. When you write things out and then read your own story it’s almost as if you can smell the aroma of freedom in the air. It was a good thing for me to reflect on my choice and see the pain come from my heart onto the paper. And as the reader of my own journal, I wanted to erase some sentences and re-write my own ending and make my self into the hero Mom who walked out of the clinic still pregnant. That was the beginning of my healing journey was having the courage to put my mess of a life into writing. I recorded 13 yes and 17 no when I took the survey in 2010. Today my answers would be different, but that’s how I felt when I started me healing journey. I was surprised by my response. I never thought of abortion as traumatic. Shameful, horrific, regretful yes, but never traumatic.” Lelia Chealey STS certified leader in Nebraska…email at firstname.lastname@example.org or visit www.leliachealey.com
“I still remember the day I wrote my abortion experience in my STS journal. I cried buckets of tears, yet releasing them felt so good after keeping them stored up for more than 20 years. The questions were great because they triggered my memory and helped me release my shame. I scored 19 on the ‘yes’ side of the survey so I made sure I had professional help during my STS study. I was then diagnosed with PTSD…and twice I had postpartum depression after my kids were born. I never associated these conditions with the abortion. The birth of my children made me more susceptible to shame…I felt I didn’t deserve to have kids and would be a rotten mother. Parenting post-abortive without any healing was extremely difficult until I completed this study. Today I see myself as a good and loving mother.” Denise, past participant
Your journey continues this week. Start by viewing the video for session two (optional due to the cost) and then complete the exercises in Session Two of your Surrendering the Secret Learners Guide.
During this abortion recovery bible study, we encourage you to pray for one another and for the leaders of the study. Please post a prayer request or praise report below, or visit the Prayer Wall.
Pat Layton Quotes
- Abortion crosses all racial, social and economic lines.
- Approximately 43% of women have an abortion by age 43
- 79% of women having abortions claim to be Christians
- Post abortive women need to tell their stories to people they trust.
- God is always working as you invite Him in.
- God wants to use our past in His calling for our future.
Group Discussion Questions
God will comfort you in the heart and voices of other women who share this journey. For confidentiality, we’ve created an anonymous email address for use during this bible study. Please use the same nickname throughout the study and use the email email@example.com if you want to remain anonymous and keep your comments confidential.
- How did you feel after journaling your abortion experience in the STS workbook?
- If you feel comfortable, share your overall survey score from page 17. How did you feel after taking the Past Trauma survey?
- Jesus values and treasures you as His sheep. How do you feel knowing He has been searching for you and do you have a willingness to be “found” by Him?
- Share any thoughts you have about this week’s lesson.
- Post a prayer request or tell us how we can support you right now.
If you need additional support for this journey, please contact Carrie Bond from Surrendering the Secret at firstname.lastname@example.org or 817-629-9435