As we study the 10th Anniversary Edition of Breaking Free by Beth Moore, we’re now half-way through our bible study lessons. This week we focus on how Jesus ministers the brokenhearted. We learn about the flaming arrow and God’s precise aim as he pierces our hearts. We learn about binding wounds that are hemorrhaging. I thought about the wife who’s husband has an affair, the obvious broken heart,and the resulting hemorrhaging. Or the Mom who tragically lost her son, and the unbearable grief she suffers. Life is about suffering and pain. God is about what we do with the suffering and the pain, allowing Him to heal our wounds, or drowning in our sorrows. This week as we study childhood hurts and betrayal, we are removing the bandages and allowing the Father to heal. Give yourself a gift of solitude, alone with your workbook, and allow time for His presence as you break free.
For those not participating in the Bible study and reading the post because of past hurt, continue reading the article and if you find healing and comfort in the words, then join the study or contact your women’s ministry at your local church and seek healing from past childhood abuse. Let’s clarify that childhood abuse is not only physical, but also includes emotional abuse or neglect. While there are various degrees of child abuse from mild to severe, in each case the spirit of an innocent child is deeply wounded and the child wears the badge of hurt throughout her adult life. You’ll see hurt by destructive behaviors-such as alcohol or drug addiction, gambling or sexual addiction, eating disorders, depression, and many other physical signs of her childhood abuse. What you cannot see is the spiritual wound, because she hides in shame from God and from herself.
In Breaking Free by Beth Moore, we’re peeling away the bandages that cover her shame. These bandages include:
- A cycle of shame
- A veil of fear
- A heart of stone
- A voice of anger
- A will to control
Her unbearable shame leads her to the darkest corners of her life, trapped in the four corners of a hard cold wall, shutting her heart to pain, unable to release it, fearing more abuse and shame. She is terrified of her past, fearful of her abuser, and angry at the abandonment of her security. Many women live their adult lives with this burden of shame, a spiritual bondage and yolk she is unable to break. She explodes in anger, she cries in hurt. She medicates with anti-depressants, food or addictive behaviors. She struggles with the one question that bleeds inside her heart: Why Me? As a child, her only answer is “I deserve it. I did something to cause this. I must be my fault.” Her heart is broken by childhood abuse and she is to ashamed to seek God’s presence and comfort. Her badge of shame removes her from the safety of her church, the pages of her Bible or the fellowship with other Christian women. Her spouse doesn’t want to hear it, her family continues to deny it, and her heart continues to deteriorate in the unyielding pain. Christ hurts too. Christ has accompanied this child from the abuse, through her walk of shame, and into her journey of restoration and healing. He knows what happened, he saw her pain, and he waits for her with His arms open. He knows it was not her fault. Christ hurts when children hurt. She is safe in the arms of Jesus and a father she trusts, God. She seeks Him diligently…and without shame. He restores her soul (Psalm 23)
Our week five study seems long and exhausting, because we’re reaching into our reserves for the courage and strength to deal with broken hearts wounded in childhood. Lesson One brought us right to the heart, lesson Two peeled open childhood wounds and lesson three examines a mending of these wounds. From these spiritual truths comes an opportunity to mend from past victimization and find glory in the presence of Jesus. We learn that some level of child victimization will probably continue throughout the world and we find the source of the abuse stems from Satan, the prowling lion, seeking his prey. Once abused in childhood, the enemy knows his opportunity exists to shame, punish, degrade and isolate us. We turn towards self-medicating sins, such as promiscuity, addictions, affairs, and scandalous behaviors. The trap has been set for us by our abuser and captivity is reinforced throughout our adult life. Satan takes us captive to to his will, not God’s. Until now, as we participate in Breaking Free and seek freedom from our captivity!
When we face betrayal, we assume that something must be wrong with us. We blame ourselves and isolate ourselves from further hurt. Jesus was betrayed by Judas and the disciples fled. A perfect son of God, tempted by Satan, walking in obedience and fear of the Lord, was deserted by HIS friends. Jesus did not respond with anger, temper tantrums or gossip-he responded with love and understanding for God’s perfect will. Next time you face betrayal, don’t turn towards self-analysis, destructive habits or bondage. Look up, at Father God, and seek glory and peace in His Presence. You always have One True Friend-Jesus.
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Beth Moore Quotes
- Self-made fortresses built to protect our hearts not only keep love from going out but they keep love from coming in.
- We risk becoming captive to our own fortresses.
- Shame is Satan’s stamp or approval.
- Anything that directly causes a child to have an increased tendency toward sin can be characterized as victimization or abuse.
- When you are trying to discern whether God or Satan is the author of a hardship, one of your best clues is whether or not sin is involved.
- Scripture is the strongest bandage God uses to bind hearts broken in childhood.
- Confession allowed me to bring sinful behaviors to the table for open discussion with God.
- The longer I held on to it, the longer the bondage strangled the life out of me.
- The road signs marking a positive change in my personal journey all appear in places of difficulty.
- Unlike people Christ is never intimidated by the depth of our need and the demonstration of our weakness.
- Jesus has walked in the sandals of those sinking in the sand of betrayal.
- A true betrayer is motivated by selfishness.
- The most deliberating loss for a Christian is the loss of faith.
- Christ desires to raise you from the LIVING dead.
- The life of a Christian is never about sameness. It’s always about change.
- When our hearts are hemorrhaging with grief and loss, never forget that Christ binds and compresses with a nail-scarred hand.
- Christ is never the author of abuse.
For Next Week
- Read Session Six in the workbook
- Listen to Audio Session Six or Video Session Six (optional due to cost)
- Join our Womens Bible Cafe Chat on Facebook
Group Discussion- Answer one question or as many as you like
- How could the enemy tempt you to think wrongly about Christ’s attitude towards child victimization? (page 109 )
- How could childhood victimization eventually trap someone by enticing conduct that could ruin the person in question? (page 114 )
- Why do you think Christ only considered Judas a betrayer even though the other disciples deserted Him and fled? (page 118 )
- Has the enemy turned any of your losses into bondage? Describe how. (Page 122 )
- If you want, share a favorite moment from this week’s study.