Welcome to our first week of study as we read 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Daughter, the Bible Study. This week we learn how to redefine beauty and guide our daughters towards His beauty and her virtue. At the Bible Cafe, we’ll post once a week with a summary of the study. These posts will appear in your email on Monday morning, so be sure to subscribe to the blog. We’re running three online studies right now, so just read the posts related to the 5 Conversations Bible Study.
The workbook lessons are about 20 minutes long, so it’s easy to complete more than one each day. Read at a pace that is most convenient for you. When you finish reading week one, come back here, and join us in conversation about the lesson.
Things You’ll Need to Do: Week One
- Pray for the other women participating in this study
- Read Week One (pages 8-37) in workbook
- Download and watch Video Conversation One (optional due to cost)
- Complete viewer guide on page 7
Author Vicki Courtney defines Godly beauty and virtue in week one, and compares this to our worldview of beauty. We learned about our misconceptions of beauty and how we pass this on to our daughters, even girls as young as 5 years old. At the end of this week’s lesson, we bring it home when we write love letters to our daughters (page 34) and redirect our conversations towards true beauty (page 35-36).
As I completed the five daily lessons on Godly beauty, I became aware that I’m wearing the crown of false beauty rather than the crown of Godly beauty. When I don’t fit the mold-of having the perfect weight, wrinkle-free skin, designer clothes and an athletic spirit-I feel depressed and unworthy of love. As a Mom of two daughters I model this attitude and pressure my girls to maintain a high standard of beauty based on appearance and society rules. Yikes! When I complement other women and girls based on their appearance, or tell my daughter how to improve hers, I’m sending a message of false beauty.
The lessons this week are helpful in redirecting my attention from false beauty to Godly beauty and virtues. What a difference this will make in my communication with my daughters! And in the way I view myself in front of the mirror.
Heavenly Father, we pray for your Spirit and your words to be in our hearts, as we discover the virtues that make us beautiful. Open our eyes to your definition of beauty and shut our eyes to the nagging commercialization of beauty products. Give us wisdom as mothers so we may teach our daughters the beauty that comes from inside the heart. Reveal to us the knowledge of your truth through scriptures and Bible study. We pray in Jesus’ name, amen.
Scripture Verses for Beauty (NIV)
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:14
Have nothing to do with godless myths and old wives’ tales; rather, train yourself to be godly. For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come. 1 Timothy 4:7-8
Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Proverbs 31:30
Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:3-4
Group Discussion for the 5 Conversations Bible Study
Let’s discuss some of these ideas from week one, to support encourage each other in our conversations with our daughters.
- On page 33, we created a list of women we know who demonstrate God’s inner beauty. Vicki suggests we talk about these virtuous women with our daughters. What can we do to increase our own exposure to virtuous women?
- What can we do to discuss our own virtuous qualities with our daughters? Do you seize opportunities to share your inner beauty with her? Please give examples.
- While you were reading this week, what idea stands out as most memorable for you?
- If you’ve had a conversation with your daughter after reading week one, please share your experience with others.